Can't get used to withdrawals

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Can't get used to withdrawals
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Fri, 10-29-2010 - 11:32am

I have been in an A for

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Registered: 07-16-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 11:56am

as long as you are still crazy about your man, the withdrawals will go on... will even get harder!

and my MM is the same way, maybe its guilt right after? but they all seem to start the communication up again a week or less or more later....

My affairs have been the

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 2:13pm

Devious_d, I am sorry for what you are going through. It must be so hard just not knowing what's going on, if you should move on or wait for him. Fortunately, my AP is good at staying in touch. We don't talk on the phone or meet every day, but he texts me a few times a day. It's just sometimes I want more than just a text.

Has it happened before that your AP would go without a contact for so long? I know it's really hard, but for now you should try to get yourself together and concentrate on yourself and your family. I do hope he gets in touch with you soon to ease your pain. I understand what you mean when you say you are tired of it all. I feel the same way from time to time. I am married too and know what it's like to feel guilt toward H. Take care of yourself. Hopefully, eventually it will get easier.

(((Hugs)))

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Fri, 10-29-2010 - 3:00pm

Well our R has been interesting that is for sure.... We met end of December, had 3 months of a major love affair, he was stressed over it cause "he fell" and I guess I did too, but really he did more actually back then... then in march he broke it off cause he was stressed about everything and about the A cause he knew we were not leaving spouses for each other, and he has ALOT of baggage and $ wise he would lose alot etc... but we started back up in July with us both being more casual and keeping the word "love" out of it even though we both still felt/feel it... so again the last month

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 3:30pm

You are right your A is a roller coaster with so many ups and downs. I think you are right about not contacting him first. I know it's hard. Every day must be a challenge.

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Mon, 11-01-2010 - 12:05pm

I know exactly what you mean, freedom.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Mon, 11-01-2010 - 12:42pm

I know the feeling. I haven't been with AP physically going on 2 months and I feel like I'm climbing walls right now. I try to tell myself maybe its a good thing because once we have that contact I need & want him with me... The withdrawals suck...I wonder if its possible to overdose on someone...UGH it hurts!

Here is a song that describes how I feel in regards to the withdrawals.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 10-27-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 9:23am

Well, I'm totally new to this, and my A is LD. But I know exactly what you mean about missing him a lot. AP and I had only been texting/emailing until we finally just met this weekend. I didn't want to leave, and really missed him a lot yesterday. I miss him a lot today too. I would imagine it won't go away though, because there's just no way for us to be together any more often than every few weeks or so, not until I move back home. I am lucky though, we stay in pretty good contact for what we're able to do. AP works nights, so we don't talk much during the day, and I sleep of course while he's up. But the few windows where we're both awake, we manage to at least get a few texts in. It's still hard though :(

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 9:48am

My A is also a LDA so the withdrawls are hard.

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:17am

I think this is what I am going through after I spend time with AP. After a few days I am okay and feel more in control of my emotions, but right after seeing him it iis hard.

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:21am

jersey, I get the same way on Friday because I know it will be a long 2 days until I hear from him again.

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