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Can't wait any longer! Need Contact !
| Wed, 03-24-2004 - 1:48am |
I am going to tell him that this is crazy! He can not expect me to be on the back burner forever with no contact. This is extremely selfish of him! Do you think he is trying to make me end the affair because he is too weak too ? I know something is not right. I feel it in my gut. The intuition that something not being told to me is there. If he has some big master plan I should be included ! We were always honest with each other. I deal in honesty. Last time we talked he said that the sex part was just complicating things right now! Why is that I asked. He just said because. No real answer for me is it?!He doesn't have sex with his wife. He can't! Nature won't allow it. But he can with me! This is the 6th day with no contact. I am busting up inside. I have ran what he said over and over in my head trying to dissect every little thing to get the utmost meaning out of it. This is not my idea of a happy life. I need to be there beside him through this. If he doesn't want me anymore he needs to tell me now!!!!!!!!!!! The not knowing what is up is killing me. I think I have a right to get angry!

I've read your post and also your "another thing" post.
I've been where you are right now. My MM cooled things off for awhile as well around December. He said he needed to go on the "straight and narrow" in order to live a normal life. Problem was, he couldn't perform with his W either. He tried to explain to her that she makes him feel inadequate where s-x is concerned, but when the problem persisted, she became suspicious and asked him if he was having an A. He told her, of course not. The guilt was too much for him at the time, so that was pretty much it for me. It lasted about 6 weeks. I was so hurt!
I'm not altogether sure what has changed since then, but we are "back together" so to speak. I don't ask about the s-x with W thing, because in all honesty, I don't want to know. I'm at the point right now where I find myself getting jealous if I know he has slept with his W - I can't help myself.
Anyway, maybe your guy just needs a bit of a break to work through some emotional stuff for himself. I know it's hard, and it does seem selfish, since we are essentially in the same boat as them - but we all know that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus... LOL
I hope my story helps. I'll be thinking of you today!
Red
But he had done that a year previous, and at that time he said "he can't try as hard with W if he's seeing me, because he's so satisfied sexually, so he thinks we should cool it so he can try harder at home to make things work with W".
Which of course, didn't work out. And he was back to me then, within a couple of weeks.
This time around, there were complications during our NC like him being sick and his work going nuts.
I would say, don't freak out but try and give it time and he will be back.
We all hate the NC times, but it seems like they can be a fact of life. Especially depending on the type of MM you have, which mine is basically a decent guy and was trying to make things work at home. I guess I had to give him that. JMO.
Dusty