caught him and it's bad-sorry its long

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caught him and it's bad-sorry its long
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:10am

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:34am
You don't consider making up a fake profile manipulative? Be prepared for him to lie and say he knew it was you all along. This is the standard answer.
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 11:48am
That's gotta hurt oh-my-my. I guess everyone should take a lesson about meeting someone on a dating site - especially one like ashley madison. I mean you could find someone sincere, but I think that site has more than its share of sex addicts and people who are just looking for LOTS of APs. It is a site for extra marital and sexual sorts of Rs, so we have to think about just who will be there for the most part.



And I would have done the same thing with the fake profile, only because he lied when he said he deactivated the account. Of course you have every right to know if he's still seeking another relationship.



Bumblebee is right that he might contact you and say he knew it was you all along - don't fall for it!



I'm sorry about the pain you must be feeling right now.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:23pm

Hi Oh_my_my


I'm sorry for the way things went down with your now XAP. I guess it was better to find out now, this way then to spend months if not years not knowing. At least you KNOW what he's about and that can help you move on & heal.


Wishing you all the best!

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 10-05-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:48pm
I think it would have been more fun to set up a face to face meeting in a public place. You know, meet me at the city diner at 7pm, I'll be wearing red so you'll know me. Then, show up a little late, after you are sure he is there, wearing red. Casually sit down and ask him about your manipulative ways. Let him speak his peice, then, kiss him long and deep, and say good bye. That's what *I* would have done. Sounds like he's all wrong for you.
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Registered: 12-03-2009
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:08pm

Bumblebee you are right.

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:12pm

Hi Oh_my_my


I'm sorry about what you are going through. I know what you feel because something similar happened to me. Only, I created a fake MySpace account and became my AP's friend. He chatted once with the fake me where he told me he was single (he is M)

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 1:22pm

Hi Oh my my,

Im sorry he was a jerk. I met my Ap...s on AM too. I worry about what happened to you will happen to me. On a positive note I ended up with a ap that is really a good friend now(he is now a xap) I did meet him on AM. So there are decent guys out there, you just have to weed thru the bs. (I mean as decent as you can get with them being married) I was pretty direct on my profile at the time..."One Man for one female for a one on one long term relationship and I will not be part of your harem"..lol

On another note, the guys I have met and the ones who I pursued a relationship with have all said the same thing. Finding a female AP on a dating site is fairly difficult. The men to women ratio is really off kilter. So, for your Ap to mess with what he had with you seems stupid. He most likely is a sex addict. And if he is a MM, be thankful that he is his W problem and not yours. And if he is single? well good luck to all those single ladies (maybe he should come equipped with a warning label)....lol

Scarlet