Change of Heart?
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Change of Heart?
| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 11:53am |
I haven't posted on here in a while, but... I started an affair about 7 months ago with a single guy (friend of my husband). Well, my husband and I are now legally separated and the OM and I are living together. Exactly what I wanted, right? Except now that it has actually happened, I miss my husband like crazy, and all I can think of is how much I want him back! Understandably, he wants nothing to do with me since I cheated on him. Should I try to win him back somehow? How exactly does one go about something like that?
I tried telling him I still loved him and wanted to go to counseling, but he pointed out that when he wanted me to go to counseling 6 months ago, I refused and said it would be pointless because I didn't want to be married anymore. Or should I try to forget about him, and just be happy with my OM? I feel like I REALLY screwed things up here, and I just wish I could take everything back! God, I NEVER thought I'd be saying that, back when the affair first started I was so in love and would have been THRILLED to be in the situation I'm now in. HELP!!

I know everyone says "no regrets", but more than anything I wish I could just turn back time and do things differently. It would be so much better if I still had my H and the OM and I were just friends again. But I guess it can never go back to the way things were...
I hope this isn't a duplicate post-my computer is acting funny. I am considering making a similar decision you made and now regret, so your post scares me!! I would like to hear more of your story. How long did you know your OM before you left and what was your marriage like before you met him, then afterwards? I have known my OM for 3 years.