Glad you had time with her, and the gift sounds perfect.
As far as getting your hopes up, the only hope I can give you is from my own experience, and although my situation is very different (as I have children and have been married almost ten years), I think most women think and feel along the same lines. I know I have read in quite a few places now (don't know the sources...just doing general searches on the web on EMAs) that most women do not enter into As unless the marriage (for the most part) is "over." (In your case, it may have never really "been.") But anyway, I am finding this to be true -- I am working on my marriage (and I began my A with no intension of ever leaving my H), but am coming to realize that there is a good chance it really is "over" (deep down) -- I never looked at my relationship with my H this closely before. This A is forcing me to do that. In short, I'm sure your Foxy is having the same thoughts (or will eventually), and if her marriage is truly empty and her love is for you...it's only a matter of time.
wow boston, that tree-decorating sounds, well, breathless! from her words and actions, i'd say you can be a little more positive that your R will make some forward progress in 2004, but still you'll have to be patient and let MW do it in her own timeframe.
stay positive and happy and remember all the good things, don't focus on the bad thoughts. you'll see her before she goes out of town and she will ABSOLUTELY love the necklace. it's something she could have bought for herself so i think she'll keep it, especially since you gave it to her. no woman (or man, for that matter) can resist loving the gift a loved one gives to her!
i'd say you're doing just fine, honey! keep a positive attitude, k?
Glad you had time with her, and the gift sounds perfect.
As far as getting your hopes up, the only hope I can give you is from my own experience, and although my situation is very different (as I have children and have been married almost ten years), I think most women think and feel along the same lines. I know I have read in quite a few places now (don't know the sources...just doing general searches on the web on EMAs) that most women do not enter into As unless the marriage (for the most part) is "over." (In your case, it may have never really "been.") But anyway, I am finding this to be true -- I am working on my marriage (and I began my A with no intension of ever leaving my H), but am coming to realize that there is a good chance it really is "over" (deep down) -- I never looked at my relationship with my H this closely before. This A is forcing me to do that. In short, I'm sure your Foxy is having the same thoughts (or will eventually), and if her marriage is truly empty and her love is for you...it's only a matter of time.
Stay positive!!
Charlotte
Edited 4/26/2004 2:25 pm ET ET by boston53
stay positive and happy and remember all the good things, don't focus on the bad thoughts. you'll see her before she goes out of town and she will ABSOLUTELY love the necklace. it's something she could have bought for herself so i think she'll keep it, especially since you gave it to her. no woman (or man, for that matter) can resist loving the gift a loved one gives to her!
i'd say you're doing just fine, honey! keep a positive attitude, k?
gurl
Go on and on about it anytime...and by the way, I KNOW what a turn-on a British accent can be (MM is British too)!!!!!
Edited 12/18/2003 11:47:44 AM ET by charlotte1203