Cheating= Honesty, Loyalty, Love?

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Cheating= Honesty, Loyalty, Love?
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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 5:29pm
rayne asked if we could love H/W and AP @ the same time?
we all do have different pov, depends on the situation i guess.
i'm in an EA, "an affair not going anywhere", i left W for my Ap.
i always give 100%, from start to finish, up to her to maintain it
If anybody, more so if a friend, relative, H/W cheats us,back stub us, when we expect honesty, loyalty, sincerity and dedication, can we say it is act of love
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Registered: 08-09-2009
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 11:20pm

Definately a good question IA.

My AP deleted me from FB because he was trying to make sure that W didnt ask about me as only friends and relatives are there. Its 6 of 1 and half dozen of the other IMO. He thinks hes protecting our R but I think sometimes hes saving his own skin to continue the cake-eating.

I do believe he loves me but getting the courage to either D for an uncertain future or stay in a so-so M where things are cruisy although unfulfilling is a hard call and not one I would want to make. If his W found out, I dont believe he would back stab or belittle me, but I am afraid that he would make it out to be less than it is so he doesnt look bad. If i ever found out that he was talking trash about me, that would be the end. Im a SW and dont need that.

Its a real balancing trick to decipher what is being deceitful and what is the truth in an A when the whole R is based on lying to ones S.

SB.

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 02-09-2010
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 8:55am
No EA will exist without cheating.
No EA will exist without lies.
Definitely ----->
No EA will exist without somebody wrongly loving someone
belonging to somebody