Cheating on OM with H???
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Cheating on OM with H???
| Thu, 05-27-2004 - 5:05pm |
Its the weirdest thing. I feel tremendous guilt showing any type of affection to my H. Its like I am cheating on my OM with my H!
I went to a concert with my H last night and my OM called at one point and when I told him who I was there with I wanted to die, I felt so guilty. Any of you feel this way??
It has gotten worse for me now that I have committed to ending the M and being with OM full time. Maybe that explains it. Its so strange!!!

I'll just go bonkers when/if MM and I split. Which is usually a reality in the EMA world.
jen
Anyway, it wasn't until I had come to that conclusion that I went to OM. While I was deciding what was best for the kids, I was still in the M and also with OM. And the time period after my feelings for OM started to grow was the worst. Absolutely awful. Each time with H really did feel like 'one night stands' that betrayed OM. Which is kinda silly, really, since OM lives with his g/f and I'm sure doesn't have the same problem with this sort of thing....he's much better at compartmentalizing all this.
But then again, if my marriage were more-or-less happy and my A had simply been about filling in the cracks in my sex life, then it probably wouldn't have bothered me. But it wasn't. I liked him looooooong before the A started. He is an opportunity I never would have forgiven myself for passing up.
HTH
Lucky
That is the understatement of the day.
Welcome to my world. I hope it never happens to you.
Take care
Red
I do want to give my M a shot, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out on its own and I've done all I could, like many of the other posts have said about their Ms and divorces. But I do get that feeling like I'm cheating on OM with H which just makes me want to say "no" to H even more.
that is the way I am too. Although I don't really feel like I am cheating on MM with H when we have sex, I also imagine it's him while H is doing oral(H is better at this too). I have certain panties I don't wear with H or toys I only use with MM... it's like those are ours and not H's! When I feel blue like my EMA might be on the rocks I tend to cry a little when having sex with H.... it just feels like I am with the wrong person!
dd
Are we married to the same man and having an EMA with the same MM? lol
jen