Choices

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Choices
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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 5:48pm

I need advice, again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 9:33pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 11:45pm

Some posts pull me out of lurkdom and this is one of them. Sweetie, can you step back a little and see what this man is doing? He is twisting things around to make it all YOUR FAULT. He doesn't love you because you are unemotional? But if you can be less distant he might? If you continue you aren't allowed to ask him questions about the roommate or have sex with other guys?


I mean really, if there is

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 9:17pm

Hi snow,


I'm sure you are right and I know deep down this guy playing me, but it's so hard to admit to myself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 11:31pm

You're welcome.


I don't think asking to have dinner at his place is a big deal IF he has nothing to hide.


Either way if he is still with her and sleeping with her and lying to you that makes him a jerk... if he is not sleeping with her and is using her for cheap rent that still makes him a jerk imo. Sometimes is easier to see when you are on the ouside looking in.


If I were in your situation and I know I will get no answers from him, I would seek them myself. Maybe pay her a visit when he is at work, introcduce myself nicely

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2007
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 5:50pm
Hi Torn!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:46pm

Thanks, lurkster for the advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2010
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 3:08am

this is YUCK!!


how small of a town do you live in?


what do you do for a living?


you need to leave this guy alone. he is manipulating you into believing what he wants you to believe for his own recreation/enjoyment, etc...


if he is married with children, he will more than likely stay married

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 12:38pm

Hi marie,


Not sure why you ask, or if your questions are rhetorical.


1. I live in a large town.


2. I have a good, albeit boring,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2009
Sat, 02-27-2010 - 5:41pm

Good grief, woman.
Are you still with this jerk?
Are there are no other men that you can actually have a relationship with?
Have some faith in yourself and dump him! he told you already he is not in love with you, what else that you need to know?

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2007
Mon, 03-01-2010 - 8:23pm

Hi, I'm almost embarrassed to say it, but yes I'm still with him.