Christmas

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Christmas
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:38pm
My H has asked off for the week of Christmas this year and I was going to do the same, but I haven't put in my request yet. I just found out MM will be taking the week AFTER Christmas off and he requested I do the same. He says he doesn't want to go two full weeks without seeing me. (Although we'd only work two days the week of Christmas, so it still would be almost two weeks...) Personally, I'd prefer to be off the same time as him because I don't want to be at work when he's not here. It's so lonely without him. So if I do take the week of Christmas off, I'll probably take the week after off as well... It would be really good for MM and I to be at work the 22nd and 23rd because no one will be here and we'll probably get to talk more privately than normal. Anyway, my QUESTION is, can I do this without arousing my H's suspicion? I figure I'd word it as, if we take the week after off, we'll be out from the 24th through the 2nd of January whereas if we take just Christmas week off we'll only be off for one week... But then H will have to burn up 4 vacation days instead of 2. Does it seem suspicious to you? Have you all ever done anything like this?
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Registered: 10-06-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 5:03pm
well if you have any plans for new years eve...that may be a good argument on your end.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lilah_iv
Wed, 10-29-2003 - 11:39am
yes lilah MM and i have done the same thing, being off at the same time, to be together. the first two times were fine, no one suspected anything because MM has a job that can require 1-2 days away and his W will not know where he is. and i usually add a day in front of or behind a weekend away with girlfriends so MM and i can be together. but the last time i was away with my girlfriends and MM met up with me, he told his W he was traveling in the same general vicinity where she knew i was! i was shocked and asked him why he didn't just say NYC or Chicago or whatever instead of where i was. he said not to worry about it because he didn't care if his W suspected anything! again i was shocked. we ended up having a discussion about "not getting caught" because i told MM i didn't want that ever and i was not going to be a pawn for him to end his M. long story short, he did apologize and said that wasn't his intention, but he could see how i might perceive it that way.

you should make your suggestion to H about changing the vacation leave at christmastime, but don't argue with your H if he wants to stick to the original plan. that would be suspicious, don't you think. just bring it up and let him think about it for a couple of days. usually men say "no" first and think about the topic and end up saying "yes" later.

good luck,

gurl