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| Sat, 08-07-2010 - 1:17pm |
My turn for the chocolates!
OM has been on a two week vacation. Yuk! He couldn't have been more available and accomodating before he went and we had a good chat about some up and coming changes related to his job. I was worried he wouldn't be able to make us fit anymore within the changes, he told me to trust him and he would. He even made sure he had international roaming on his data plan so we could still email while he was holidaying with his family and in laws and since it was entirely his idea (I didn't mention a thing - I was soooo good!) I was more than chuffed!
He's contacted me almost every day of his vacation, never gone more than a day without a message, sometimes just a goodnight, sometimes a brief chat, sometimes a few messages through the day. Always chirpy, I was undemanding, respectful of the fact it must have been very hard with seven other relatives around 24/7, including his W. Then it all got to me. Urgh!! Last day of his vacation, I suddenly got the feeling that his messages were more about keeping me content, keeping the peace rather than because he missed me. Absolutely no idea why! He messaged me that morning and I replied and then after several hours of silence (pretty standard for vacation and I KNEW he would reply eventually) I got pi$$ed off. I'd had a very bad day and really missed him and sent an email along the lines of "I take it I wasn't supposed to bother replying!!" His relatively quick reply was to take it he has his phone off when he's in the pool. He wouldn't say why. I asked if it wasn't locked anymore (scared me a bit) and told him to just say the word if he'd rather I didn't contact him anymore. (Slight over reaction maybe) I then fired off an email in temper asking if he'd actually missed talking to me at all. I absolutely knew what the reply would be! "No I have been talking to you" and called me by one of our particular terms of endearment that we use when we are annoyed at each other.
I didn't reply. I was gutted. It brought back lots of memories of the times when he refused to acknowledge his feelings about me and I felt he'd dragged me back there. I thought I - we - were over all that crap.
Not heard from him today (he's travelling home)and I'm glad I haven't. Doubt I will until tomorrow, maybe Monday. Not tempted to contact him but them I rarely initiate contact. Wondering what's the point if he really didn't miss me :-/ If (when) he does contact me I feel like just telling him to erm ...go away. Too tired to play today. Too many serious issues in my life to spare the energy it took last night thinking about it all. I'm pretty sure he did miss me, why the f*** can't he just tell me he did and why does it even matter when I know he did, and will, if I disappeared on him!?! Why did I lose it on his last day away after weeks of being absolutely fine?!
More chocolates please ....gooey, sticky ones please
Bird

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~Passes the chocolate~
I really think you overreacted a bit Bird. He WAS making an effort to do what you have asked - keep in touch and not let the squirrels go wild. We always say here that actions are more telling than words. By his actions he's trying to please you. As for the message that was not responded to - well, one of the messages has to be the "last" in the exchange, right? When I'm on vacation I don't get in touch with my OM at ALL. If I did manage to send an e-mail from a hotel lobby and he answered it, I would most likely not be able to answer again. Even with a phone, it isn't easy to communicate with people all around. People do notice a lot of texting. I wouldn't want to start any suspicions in my spouse OR in any other relatives.
I guess a lot of the time I'm on the "other side" of everyone else here. I always see their point of view because it's mine LOL. I'd better give my OM a bigger hug than usual as soon as I walk in next time. I think he puts up with a lot.
~Dives into the chocolate with Bird~ :-)
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Uh...move over, ladies, I'm plopping down to indulge in the chocolate as well! LOL!
Lexi beat me to it, Bird :) I was gonna be really snarky and ask if we weren't maybe a bit hormonal... **ducking** LOL!
**** protecting my chocolates and randomly smacking hands away***
You guys are welcome to the chocolates any old time girls.
Bird- the others beat me to it- I think his actions are amazng and i would LOVE it if my AP could have a chat with your AP :)
"...think Lexi should buy more and bring her MM to MAS so we can give him tips on how to deal with her !! LOL ;-)"
He's a single guy! LOL! That's why I never bring this place up anymore, you would all no doubt tell him he deserves better LOL!
Thanks Iggy, that's what I need myself, laced chocolates, forget the squirrels. ;-)
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It was those two Iggy!!
** <-----Lexi and Kimber-----> **
If the squirrels aren't fat and fed then at least we all are after our choccie fest LOL ;-)
Thanks Iggy ;-) I'm sending OM over to sort your AP out asap, dropping by your place with a very large box of laced chocolates!!
Yeah, admittedly, he has been lovely and I did reply .... eventually :)~ ... telling him I was soooo tempted to ignore him until he had to admit he MISSED ME!! His reply?
'Lol tempted but unable to lol ' !
Cheeky so and so!! Lol, I reckon he's been getting tips from you lot!
Speaking of which .... sending out the search party for Lexi's AP! ...come on girls ...let's go get him and bring him to the choccie party! LOL ;-)
Love you lot loads - thanks for being there at my most ridiculous moments (there will be more!)
XxX
PS ....just had a text from HIS father (who went on vacation too - he's one of my business partners) saying he missed me! Urrggghh! Men! Lmao!! Can this get any more ridiculous?!
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I would just like to say that I am completely offended by this flagrant disregard for the chocolate.
It's a long one really and thinking back I'm not sure why I am still involved with him after all we have been through.
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