confused

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Registered: 06-08-2010
confused
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:14pm

I saw AP today. I wasn't feeling too good (my back was hurting# and he wanted to comfort me. So he came over. We talked and cuddled and as always he got all excited. When he was leaving he said that he wants to continue meeting up twice a week, but we should have IC once a week. He said that whenever he is around me he gets too excited right away and wants to try to control his urge. And it is true, he does get excited the second he touches me. So I am just wondering why he wants to learn to control himself with me. I don't mind being less intimate and just spending some quiet time with him # I do want some romance not just sex), but I just can't stop wondering why would he want to do that. He tried to do it before, it didn't work. Any thoughts? Did it happend to anyone else?


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Registered: 10-03-2008
In reply to: findfreedom
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:23pm
perhaps he doesn't want it to turn in to being all about SEX...maybe he's trying to show you that your relationship will extend beyond intimate contact..i think this is a good thing....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 06-08-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:35pm
I hope you are right. I wouldn't want him to do it because he feels to attached to me. I hope he is not looking for a way to pull back from me.
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Registered: 03-26-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:16am
I agree with Tyger.
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Registered: 02-06-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 2:20am
maybe he has to have sex with his W once a week,
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 06-08-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 11:58am

Well, according to him there is not much intimacy in his house (once every 2 months). I think he is being honest about it because

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Registered: 02-06-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Sat, 07-31-2010 - 2:40am
i believe it about the intimacy part. marriages tend to become that way at some point in time. i also believe you are right about the addiction facet. take is as a compliment. he is trying to enjoy u but not become so enthralled w/u that he can't operate as he needs to. emotions are surging charges often challenging to contain. enjoy what u have with him for now, and don't fret about his request for reduced IC. u can always do other "things" right? ;) thanks for replying, too.
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal