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confused
| Tue, 01-20-2004 - 3:46pm |
i have a lot going on. i have no idea how to put in in perspective.
1) happily married (no kids). (seriously!) we are best friends, make each other laugh, share same friends are always happy together. BUT
2) I have been married 4.5 years, and we've had sex just about that many times. SO
3) I meet OM, who I have no emotional connection to. met through a friend and as soon as we looked at eat other, i knew I was in trouble. and I was right. no sex yet, but I have a feeling that when i see him again there will be.
4) I also have a one night guy (ONG) that was realy incredible. Again, no sex, but he wants to see me again. I am stalling because OM is taking up all my thinking power.
1) happily married (no kids). (seriously!) we are best friends, make each other laugh, share same friends are always happy together. BUT
2) I have been married 4.5 years, and we've had sex just about that many times. SO
3) I meet OM, who I have no emotional connection to. met through a friend and as soon as we looked at eat other, i knew I was in trouble. and I was right. no sex yet, but I have a feeling that when i see him again there will be.
4) I also have a one night guy (ONG) that was realy incredible. Again, no sex, but he wants to see me again. I am stalling because OM is taking up all my thinking power.
how do i balance this? i don't really think about either when I am with the other... but when i'm alone i ache for OM. we talk online a lot, but finding time together can be tough.

obviously you are confused about your marital life. sure sounds like your H is your best "girl" friend, not your lover. is this what you want? a fun, social, sexless M and As on the side to satisfy your lust?!
before you take any steps in the direction of other men, think about your M and why you've settled for so little with your H.
we're hear to listen and offer advice and support. i'm just not sure what you're "asking" for.
gurl
i'm not gonna find anyone else like that. i think he's got some stuff going on that once he comes to terms with he'll be okay. i was willing to wait it out. but over the past few weeks... that plan came crubling down around me with teh arrival of ONG adn OM.
i hear what you are saying, and appreciate it, i just wanted to calrify
i'm sorry, 99, i'm not making fun of your M or your dilemma. it's hard for me to understand a M with so little physical contact and intimacy surviving and prospering.
i still think you need to figure out why, after 4.5 years, you're drawn to two other men. and you are approaching sex with one or both of them. no judgments here, believe me. i just want you to be careful with your body AND your self-esteem!
gurl
Edited 2/17/2004 9:03:47 PM ET by gurlfriend50
trust me when i say that h and I have discussed our little problem, over and over. and over and over. he's even said more than once he's surprized i'm not having an A. if he asked, i'd probably tell the truth. I CAN'T leave him. my life would be over.
Maybe you should get IC to find out way you think your life would be over without H, It sounds like you have issues to work out just like H does, that could be the glue that is keeping you together.
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