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Confused
| Wed, 12-31-2003 - 1:31am |
Hello everyone I'm new to the board and need advice I have been having an affair with a MM for almost 9 years off and on recently we have been seeing each other once a month sometimes twice. When were together it feels like he wants to be with me but the next morning he acts differently with me like he regrets being with me then it takes him days to contact me. We mostly talk via email for hours he works out of his office at home. He said that he is happily married and that she is his soul mate I don't understand why he looks for me? I can go on with my story but it's long does anyone have any advice what should I read into this please help!!!

first of all, his W is NOT his soulmate and he is NOT happily married, or he would not seek you out once or twice a month.
i don't know whether you are married or single, but don't make too much out of this A. if you've been on and off for 9 years and nothing has changed, this situation will stay status quo until one of your changes it. if you're single, i hope you are not waiting for this MM! he is staying put in the M, and has you on the side, so you better be dating other men. if you're married, keep the A as it is, for fun and games once a month, nothing more.
MM is feeling guilty and/or regretful after you've been together, so reassure him that the R is only fun and games, not a lifetime commitment. keep it light and don't demand more from MM than he can give you or he'll continue this withdrawal behavior.
good luck,
gurl