Confused

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Confused
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:30pm
Hi, I have not posted in a long time. I have been reading the posts lately. I'm 32 and have lived with my bf 10 yrs. Its very lonely at home so that's why I am seeing MM. Have chatted with him over a year but have only met like 5 times. Did have sex once. I understand what you are all saying about the roller coaster thing. Gosh its hard at times. I mean its like he tells me one thing but does another. He tells me he has feelings for me and really likes me, but it seems like when we chat, he wants me to send him pics and then he says we will chat afterwards but then after I send him pics he says he's tired and has to go to bed. We have just chatted before online without sending pics though. Then everytime we have met its like after we fool around he leaves. I mean I guess I feel like I need the emotional part of it too and I'm not getting it. He says he wants to be with me and leave his wife. He also says he wants to get a Hotel room and wants me to go on his business trips with him. I mean I would love to just sit and talk sometime and have him hold me like some of you say you do. I don't wanna seem like a annoying person by asking him and I do not even know how to word it anyway. I mean do you think he just tells me one thing. He even said he would have to meet my daughter sometime. Then, to me this really does not make sense but he told me he wants to have unprotected sex and if I get pregnant then it was met to be and he will be with me. Shouldn't he get a divorce first, I mean commen sense. He is 33 by the way and he is intelligent so I dunno what to think about that one lol. I don't know just venting I guess lol

thanks Sarah

thanks, Sarah

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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: sarah322003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:40pm
Hi Sarah..I kind of know where you're coming from, I just posted about the same type of thing, though it is a little different. But I know what you mean about wanting the emotional part of it as well...but not wanting to seem "needy" at the same time. I'm having a hard time with the very same thing!

I can tell you that the fact that he says he wants to have unprotected sex seems *very* disturbing to me...I don't think that his attitude about this is very healthy at all, and I would be very concerned about that. I absolutely would NOT have unprotected sex with him, or anyone for that matter! The risks are far too great...

I'm sorry I don't have any *real* advice for you, I just wanted to let you know that I understand! I'll be watching to see what others have to say...((hugs))