Confused

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Confused
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Thu, 01-08-2009 - 2:08pm
Sorry -
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In reply to: emmaj74
Thu, 01-08-2009 - 8:03pm

I got lost in all the details and you can't really expect people on a public message board to read through a novel that long.

So, my advice would be to keep it short, straight to the point (we don't care about details) you might think your story is unique but the truth is, IT IS NOT! And if you haven't yet, run for the hills.



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In reply to: emmaj74
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 12:16am
Yea, your post was just way too long. However, I understand that it was probably very cathartic for you to write it, so that's ok. I guess all I will say is that I'm sure he likes you, enjoys spending time with you, probably cares about you. Does he love you? I doubt it. Has he used you in some ways? Yea, probably, based on some of his actions. You can still like someone and use them at the same time. But the bottom line is you're both married, have some big things at stake here, so extricating yourself from the situation as it has been is probably the best idea.
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In reply to: emmaj74
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 2:09am

since it seemed to get skipped - welcome, emma.

usually when someone asks "what did he mean?" (a version of "did i get played?"), i am at a loss. only having the printed word to follow - no personal observation and not being a mind reader - i really don't have a clue. but it sounds like you felt there was more than sex in the relationship, that he is trying to be honorable and may be fantasizing of a future - but you don't know how that would happen. And now he seems to have taken the high road.

best case: assume he was truthful and let it go because he has made a choice to end it.

worst case: assume he was a user and let it go because he has made a choice to end it.

either way, let it go because he has made a choice to end it - even though the truth may be somewhere in between

Mrs.




Edited 1/9/2009 2:58 am ET by mrs.smithandjones
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In reply to: emmaj74
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 12:52pm

Thank you all for your replies.