Confused and hurting

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2009
Confused and hurting
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Wed, 04-01-2009 - 3:02pm
This is my second post on this website and I decided this time I would give more information.

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Registered: 04-18-2009
Mon, 04-27-2009 - 2:00pm

Jen,


Sorry you are in such turmoil right now and so is your AP. I swear though...he sounds just like my Xap...the conversations could have been mine so many years ago.


The difference was in the timing, though. My Xap left his home and returned to it before I decided to leave my M. When I left, he decided (i thought) to make a move, but like you, I always told him to do what was best for him.


Once I was

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 12:55am

HS, Jen, Passionate...


I wish I could have kept up with this string!

maystone
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Registered: 04-14-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 12:51pm

Good morning Jen, May, & HS:


Okay, so I finally got quiet time at 11 last night (after an evening at the pet store and

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 1:34pm
Good morning gals!
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Registered: 02-26-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 1:41pm

Oh and passionate, I totally know what you mean about being upset that ivillage was on the fritz.....I try to check on you guys several times a day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 4:24pm

Good afternoon~


Glad you're hanging in there Jen.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 8:19pm

Hey gals....


Loved catching up on all of the posts today.


Jen....hope your lunch went okay. We're here if you want to share, cry or vent.


Maystone: Loved your post about the emotional connection. Although I don't miss the craziness of my A., I do miss the close connection my AP and I had. Our situation was never RL to be sure, but I do believe the feelings I had for him were real.


I think the reason I found these boards recently is because my XAP has been trying to reconnect over the past few months. It's always by

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Registered: 04-18-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 8:50pm

To answer a few questions from earlier:


Jen--my extended family lives 8 hours away...so they never met AP. My sisters heard about him. My H. met him once at a work function--I met his W. once or twice before the A. He met my kids in the office once during work hours. Our relationship was really just between the two of us, although he knows a ton about my kids' lives and vice versa.


Passionate--I applaud your ability to tell your parents. I have not been able to tell my mom what happened. She has accepted the divorce, but still loves my XH. Sends him birthday and Christmas gifts and calls him periodically, which is okay with me.


Maystone--I remember having conversations with XAP too about whether our relationship would hold up under the pressure of other people's questionable opinion of us. That was a tough one for me. As much as we might believe in our own right to follow our heart, I myself wondered if I could hold my head high in front of his adult children and other people who had known us when we were married to other people. But others have done it, so I'm glad you met someone who spoke so lovingly and respectfully of his wife, regardless of how they met.


Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.       ~Anonymous
 &nb

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Registered: 04-14-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 10:28pm

Hey chicas,


I'm sitting in my recliner quoting insurance (one of my professions) and drinking a margarita (well deserved..........just sat with my parents as they decided to put an offer on a house.........it was like listening to Archie and Edith Bunker......Gawd!) and decided to check the posts 'really quick' before I come back later.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2009
Tue, 04-28-2009 - 10:31pm

Hey everyone!

maystone

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