confused and looking for some insight..

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Registered: 02-05-2003
confused and looking for some insight..
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Sat, 03-20-2010 - 10:10am

so, roughly a year ago, I met a great guy.

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 10:23am

I believe that you're thinking about something so unpredictable and far into the future-something you really have no control over at this point.

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 1:10am

Although you have not had physical contact with this man, the fact remains that he IS cheating on his wife. As you called it....an emotional affair. Anytime someone has a secret relationship on the side, that their spouse neither knows about or would approve of, it is cheating. I suspect that he is getting some titillation out of it all, especially since he has now commenced to making it sexual via "sexting". He's either leading up to making the move, or putting the ball in your court to do it. But just do not be misguided in thinking it's not a betrayal to his wife. It is.

That being said, I know you said it doesn't bother you that he has basically been lying to you by omission for the last year, but it sure would me. So my best words of advice to you are to extricate yourself from it all. Because I have no doubt that in the end, you will be the hurt one. Besides his wife, that is. You're single and free. He isn't. You don't need to settle for seconds with him. There's plenty of single men out there.