Confused and not sure what to think...

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Confused and not sure what to think...
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Sun, 08-01-2010 - 6:46pm

So, I met this amazing guy.

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Registered: 06-15-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 9:47pm
IMHO......His goal was to sleep with you. He did. He will contact you when/if he would like to again. Sucks but is what it is.
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:31pm

This is just from my own personal experience, but I think right now, he's damaged goods.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 8:40am

I agree with anothereyes. If you send a light hearted message, he won't think that the whole thing was all serious to you. He's in no condition to start another relationship at this point, and he's afraid that you view what happened as the beginning of an R. He doesn't know how to tell you that he's not ready for that - might not even think he ever wants another serious R at this point - so he's avoiding you.

It does suck that he's not getting back to you, but I think your friendship can be saved if you go back to being "friends" and don't fall into anything else. Let him have other women for f-buddies. He'll wanna have those, and unless that's all you want, don't fall into that! Just be a friend - he'll need all he can muster.

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Registered: 02-05-2003
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 10:02am

I guess I should have mentioned that my messages were along the lines of "how is your hangover? and did you get home ok?"

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:11am

you are not dumb.. you acted in the best way you could at the time.. unless it happens to you, there's no way you could've guessed this is where things be at this time.. for now, it's a lesson learned.. however, you may still hear from him, either in the near future or later.. you never know..

us men do go crazy in life transition stages such as this.. i've been there and done things i am not proud of.. so, as other posters noted, this is not surprising, though very hurtful to you..

chalk it up to experience.. and do figure out how you want to represent yourself if/when you hear back from him..

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