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| Mon, 12-22-2003 - 9:37pm |
I've noticed my boss (Darren) at work expressing an interest in me. There's a 13 year difference between us...I'm in my early 20's and he's in his late 30's and he is married with no kids. I've caught him looking at me several times over the past few months...I've known him for about a year now. The thing is, is that I have a huge crush on him....I really like him. Now something funny happened at work about a few months ago. Turns out that we both took the same days off. He joked about it in the morning around a couple of colleagues with him asking me "so what do you want to do". Then at the end of the day, when just about everyone was gone for the day, I went to his office to say good night.....we were pretty much alone, i said have a great weekend and began to walk away he then said "wait wait", and he asked me when i was off until, he already knew though (his voice cracked a little). He asked me again "so what do you want to do?" He is a really funny guy, he is my boss, but is completely a great guy...I'm guessing he was just joking when he said that. Both times when he asked me I answered "I dont know"? With a smile... he tends to get a little nervous when we are alone. ..he's really hard to read.. maybe i'm imagining this all.....but I really like him so much it hurts.. I think about him all the time...there was an instance where he was working with me on something at my desk, he was sitting so close to me with his elbow on my chairs armrest with his head resting on it, I mean, i've never seen him do that with anyone else. There was another instance again a couple of months ago where we were looking at some pictures on a digital camera with another colleague they were both close looking at the camera I was holding, at one point darren was like behind me and he was leaning over to look at it that he like leaned on my back, brushed me hard! Then a couple of months ago I was wearing a very fitted top actually ( I felt really uncofmartable in it) In the afternoon I was sitting at one of my co-workers desks and Darren came by to talk to another co-worker in the same cubicle area he glanced over at me and asked me what are you doing I was like, Im taking a break then he goes to another co-worker/friend of his in a nervous chuckle and said shes distracting me. That threw me off guard, I can tell he was like oops. No one said anything¦Then a few weeks later there was a Friday at work where I didnt bring a lunch........i knew Darren didnt bring a lunch, so I called him and asked him if he brought a lunch, he was like no. I said that well Im going to Harvey's, hes like me too (now usually he would ask me to pick something up for him, blah blah) so it was just me and him! We took my car, and my god did he seem nervous in the car as was I. He didnt talk much either for some reason as I knew hes been having headaches that past couple of days. I babbled a lot, we both felt uncomfortable I think.....we only talked about work¦notihng else really, I tried asking things about his family, but he never really like to talk about family stuff (or his wife) around me.
I've caught him completely staring at me sometimes its almost weird. He bugs me a lot about a particular friendship i have with a male co-worker at work who is a great friend of mine, he always seems to speak a loud that i'm in love with this guy when we are all joking around. He makes it seem like a joke when we're all around, but he mentions it often. There was an instance Over the past month or two however hes been awfully moody, rather distracted....it could be something personal. I'm just babbling here, but the nervousness he used to have around me seems to have stopped these days, but the staring hasnt. Maybe this is just who he is.... is it safe to make a move (if so, how should I?)....or should i wait for him to....or will or can this happen? I know this is sooooo wrong, but i desperately want this guy....
Edited 12/30/2003 8:08:43 PM ET by hope93

seriously, just don't! you will not benefit from pushing this flirtation to something more. BTDT and IT IS NOT WORTH THE AGGRAVATION!
think very hard before you pursue this situation further!
good luck,
gurl