Confused, Hurt, Just don't know

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Registered: 01-16-2009
Confused, Hurt, Just don't know
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Fri, 01-16-2009 - 5:43pm

Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking on the site for awhile now. First I want to say that I am glad that I found this site. I come and read everyday because I see how wonderful everyone is in helping and caring about everyone that visit’s the site.


Well, here is my story

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:15pm

I'm afraid he sounds too much like a typical MM who wants to play around on the side. They come in like a roaring bull giving and telling you everything you want to hear and then start the fade and push and pull thing.

Let's look at this in a realistic way. He knows he got you where he wants you. He is now trying to let you know and decide for yourself (stay or go) what's in store for you if you should decide to stay in an A with him. CRUMBS! That's all. I even have a gut feeling that he might have found other prospect on the side now besides you.

Look, he never promised you anything and he sure have a lot of (although valid) reasons why he's been flakey lately. But gee, how convenient. Also, I think it's always a bad move in introducing kids to people we date especially if the person is a MM. However, what's done is done. Now time to do damage control. Start weaning them kids from the thought that this guy might be Daddy someday. Time too to really figure out what is it you want and need in life and will he be able to provide it. A pros and cons list would be a good idea.

>>>"Lost in my tears & my heart is breaking."<<<

Real love is not feeling despair and pain all the time and it shouldn't be a struggle to keep it alive. They say in an A "when the pain outweighs the pleasure" it's time to go.

Good luck to you.



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Fri, 01-16-2009 - 6:41pm

Thank you Goddess, I agree with you about the kids, the only thing was when he met them we were jsut friends, nothing more, and then it just grew from there.