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Confusing situation
| Thu, 12-18-2003 - 11:04am |
I don't know if I am in the right place or not but I need to know how others feel about this. The problem is that my brother in law has moved in w/us and we really have a good time together. He is 10 years younger than me and never been married, he has been away from the family for over 9 years.
He wanted to learn how to dance and so I have been teaching him out in the garage of our home, but things got a little to close last night and emotions really got out of hand and we ended up kissing. I know this is wrong but I really don't know if I want to stop it, I know I should but I love the attention I get from him, I am married to a workaholic who is also an alcholic, he is either passed out, sleeping or working at the shop everynight. This is crazy I have to stop this. Thanks for listening just needed to vent and get it in perspective.
He wanted to learn how to dance and so I have been teaching him out in the garage of our home, but things got a little to close last night and emotions really got out of hand and we ended up kissing. I know this is wrong but I really don't know if I want to stop it, I know I should but I love the attention I get from him, I am married to a workaholic who is also an alcholic, he is either passed out, sleeping or working at the shop everynight. This is crazy I have to stop this. Thanks for listening just needed to vent and get it in perspective.
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| Thu, 12-18-2003 - 11:26am |
First of all, you should take a look at your marriage and ask yourself is this what you want from life. You are not in a healthy situation with an alcoholic H. Have you tried to get him to seek help for his alcoholism? That's something bigger than you can handle and you need to get him professional assistance. It's not unusual to love the attention you're getting from this other man, but if it's JUST about the attention you aren't getting from your H, you should work on that first. Is there some way you can get H to pay you the attention you want, or is it that you feel your marriage is pretty much dead? If you still love him, you should sit him down and tell him you love him but you can't live like this. See if he'll agree to substance abuse counseling and possibly marital counseling. See if you can save your marriage before you do something you can't undo.
