Contact made

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Contact made
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 12:39pm

Had a meeting last night and AP was there.  After I left early to go to my ball game I texted and said "not even a hello?"  He texted back and said that he was trying to flirt with me the whole time I was there.  I asked him "when?"  He never responded back..little later in the night I texted to see if he wanted to meet.  No response, went by his house on my way home and it was dark.  Texted this morning and asked why he was trying to flirt with me and it was nice to see him...nothing.  I know that there are times where he cannot use his cell (or that's what he says) but why keep stringing and feeding crumbs and then fall off the face of the Earth?  Yes, I know...I allow it...I need to stay away and get some respect and just drop this.

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 12:58pm

(((Staying))) I know how you feel.  I told myself I wasn't going to make contact to try to set a meet up with AP but I did anyway.  And well lord and behold he has something to do tonight.  I wish I had some words of encouragement but I"m finding it hard to say them to myself right now.  I guess eventually we'll get tired of it all and walk away.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:08pm

Staying, you are a glutton for punishment. You know when you text him that he goes MIA so please know that this is his MO. This is what he does to you on a regular. Why do you reach out and say "not even a hello"? is beyond me. It's like your begging to get your feelings hurt. He's not stringing you along, he feeds you crumbs because you come for them, he falls off the face of the earth, because he can.
I know your craving those highs that you had with him from when you both 1st started and now that he pulled away you've been trying to get that same hit ever since. Stop looking for him....He's not going to give you want you want & need.
Sending you hugs!

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 07-08-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:13pm

 Re-read your last line and keep re-reading Purple's line: It's like your begging to get your feelings hurt.

One day you'll get it - until then, count on getting your feelings hurt and looking desperate.

And nobody is attracted to desperate.

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Registered: 10-03-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:24pm

The only way you are ever going to feel better about this is by stopping what you are doing and moving on. Right now I am guessing you have that sick feeling of regret and embarassment in the pit of your stomach? If you want to not feel that again, you need to stop lowering yourself and begging this man for crumbs. I think you know exactly what you are doing, and know you need to stop. Its hard to do, but its gotta happen sometime. So why not let today be the day? 

Everytime you make contact with him you become out of control and desperate. It gives you a little something to hold on to, and you run off and go crazy with it. So, staying, no more contact anymore! 

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Registered: 10-03-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:27pm

One more thing Staying... please stop making excuses for him. If he does not respond its because he doesn't want to. I'm sure he is able to use his phone, after all he is not married right? You are making him feel like THE MAN, and he's not deserving of that. 

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 2:39pm
He's not married but is at work and at times travels for work and unable to respond...so he says. I just want to know but I probably do anyway....boo on affair endings!
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Registered: 05-31-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 2:51pm
The fact that he doesn't reply eats away at me like nobody'sbusiness that's what keeps me asking for him to just tell me to stop and the power he has over the relationship is the same my h has...ugh!