Contact problem

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Registered: 12-11-2008
Contact problem
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Sun, 03-01-2009 - 11:31am

I have been with AP for 2 years and things have been great. We had almost daily contact and our relationship has been drama free and wonderful. We definitely love eachother. The last 6 months or so things have started to take a nose dive with his career due to the economy, and his stress level grew.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 2:08pm

If you feel you have become more of a booty call,then you probably have.Its clear that you dont like it.Dont put up with it else your AP will consider you that always.Dont accept his offer next couple of times and see what happens.then put your needs in front of him.if he is able to contribute,good,else you know what has to be done.

good luck to you.

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Registered: 03-01-2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 5:54pm

You know, studies have shown that men view connections differently than women. I've heard it said that women have to feel close to have sex BUT that men have to have sex to feel close.


There are many different ways that we can connect with partners - physically and emotionally. I think in any relationship, the two are very important. You're going to know what's going on with him better than anybody. But possibly because he's going through lots of other emotional issues, the only way that he can connect with you is physically. I wouldn't necessarily feel used by that - as long as you feel like it's not one sided. Like I said though, you're going to be able to tell what's really going on with him better than anybody.

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Registered: 03-01-2009
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 6:00pm
I'm new just posted myself..i can tell you that's how it started for me when i wanted out i stopped communicating as much and not making an effort to give him time. I'm having issues myself with all this. It's not easy.