Contributing Random Factors--Inevitable?
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Contributing Random Factors--Inevitable?
| Wed, 03-31-2004 - 8:58pm |
I tend to read everything I can get my hands on when I am interested in or involved in something. My A is no different. I skim a lot of books, and realize that the chances of me falling into an affair are HUGE. Here's some things I've found:
1. Work outside the home: Check. I have a sales position, which makes it even easier.
2. Waist-to-hip-ratio: Read that women with a .70 ratio are the most likely to have As and in general have more sexual partners(somebody studied this??). Mine is .69 (haha)
3. Job status, especially compared to Husband's: Though I don't make more than my H (yet), my job has much more "status" than his.
4. Educated: College graduate
5. Body Symmetry: See #2 above. Don't know how to measure, but I dunno, I guess I'm symmetrical.
1. Work outside the home: Check. I have a sales position, which makes it even easier.
2. Waist-to-hip-ratio: Read that women with a .70 ratio are the most likely to have As and in general have more sexual partners(somebody studied this??). Mine is .69 (haha)
3. Job status, especially compared to Husband's: Though I don't make more than my H (yet), my job has much more "status" than his.
4. Educated: College graduate
5. Body Symmetry: See #2 above. Don't know how to measure, but I dunno, I guess I'm symmetrical.
Though I'm not a beauty queen by any means, I feel that I'm fairly attractive and have a very fit body. My job affords me a variable schedule where I can be wherever. And technology, I think, has made the A fairly easy to carry off (cell phones, email, etc.).
If around 40% of all women end up in affairs, man, my chances must be something like 90%!
How do you guys fit these criteria?

1. I'm a Leo. We need love and affirmation all the time.
2. I'm a ENFP. We need love and affirmation all the time.
3. On the Enneagram personality types I am a 2. I fear being unwanted and unworthy of love, and my basic driving desire is to feel loved. I need love and affirmation all the time.
4. I'm a musician. We need love and affirmation all the time.
5. I'm a dominant. We need love and affirmation all the time (and if we don't get it, we'll spank you.)
and finally...
6. I'm a man. We need love and affirmation all the time.
Tongue firmly in cheek where appropriate...
rain
It's certainly not me!
I'm a SAHM... and I started part time study after my affair began.
Therefore as you can see I'm just really getting an education now... at 34! I'm what most would call a high school drop out... preferring to work rather than study back then.
Not sure about that waist to hip ratio thingy... but I've had less than 10 partners all up... so I doubt that's more than most.
As for body symmetry... I'm by not means odd shaped and too much out of proportion... but for a small petite woman... I have big boobs.
Naahhhhh!!!! can't see me fitting that criteria.
Sweet
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Who needs criteria when I have found the someone that has completely and absolutely found everything I need and who I desire to do the same for him...
Kikki
2. I don't have a tape measure, but I have a small waist and definite hips. LOL
3. Single, ICU Nurse
4. Master's in Nursing
5. Symmetrical, LOLOL...
I didn't exactly fall into my A. I fought, kicking and screaming for a while. (Still do, lol). But the man I've prayed for all my life, (and I seriously prayed _for_ him: I didn't know his name. I didn't know what he looked like or where he was, but I could feel him...and I prayed for him from the time I was a child and he was in 'Nam...), when he found me, I fell completely in love. How could I not take the gift of his love and cherish the moments?
So, I didn't fall into my affair. When I recognized him, I jumped in head first. ::grins::
Cazrida
It's not so much how we look (alot of A's start out emotional without the partners realising) but how we connect with the other person - sparks, baby, yeah! And, it's not where we are physically (career, SAHM, whatever), so much as where we are mentally.
Technology does not encourage an A, since forbidden passion has been around from day one. Where there's a will, there's a way...where there's a will, there's an A.
It's all down to decision, imho.
Meow
I wouldn't say my situation with OW is the same exactly, but it's interesting that we've compared time periods in our lives and strange things match up.
rain
There are things which we've been completely unable to explain. (And both of us like explanations...this is _not_ something we're completely comfortable with. LOL)
But he's my Querido. And if we've lived before, I can tell you that he's _always_ been my Querido. Even if we don't work it out, even if we don't remain lovers, he will always be my Querido and he will always be in my life, my heart and my soul.
And yes, I prayed for him. I prayed for his safety and his happiness. I prayed for his successes and for peace. I prayed for him for years.
I prayed him into a decent marriage that he's having a hard time leaving. Moral of the story: Be careful what you pray for.....;)
Cazrida