Controversial, even for this board?

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Registered: 01-10-2009
Controversial, even for this board?
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Sat, 01-10-2009 - 11:25pm

Ok, so here is my story.


My husband and I have a great relationship. We trust each other, love eachother. I have never gotten along with anyone as well as I do with him. That being said, we are young and progressive and decided to try swinging.


I found another couple in Nov. and we met had a good time.


I stay at home with our three kids during the day and work nights when h gets home. The guy from the other couple stays at home with his three kids and works at night when his w gets home. So we would talk during the day and we got along very well. He began telling me his w and him mweren't doing well. We'd talk for hours about anything and everything. After a short amount of times, it became clear we were developing feelings. When the four of us would get together, for us it was just about him and i.


We talked about leaving our spouses. One morning he asked me if I wanted him to get me pregnant. I laughed and said no (that'd be 7 between the two of us!) He said he was hoping for a different answer, I thought he was insane.


THE NEXT DAY - I find out I'm pregnant. It has to be his, I know it is, I know it with my body and soul. I told him and he said he wanted to be with me. I was hesitant because he and I work part time with our spouses being the "bread winners"

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Registered: 06-29-2008
Sun, 01-11-2009 - 9:40pm
that is too funny.. was that a real condom? wow.. I remember when I was younger I dated a guy that (TMI) was huge and he had a hard time rolling it on but he ended up being able to put it on... but on a person's head?....wow..
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 8:24am

Good for you! He's proven that when push comes to shove and things get tough, he will disappear. You don't need that, and neither does your baby.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 2:48pm
((hugs))
This is such a mess! But you really dont want a guy who runs to the hills when it gets tough.
I guess,in an A,a difficult time should come before one takes a major step( like D).This would be a deciding factor if your AP is worth it or not.The one who doesnt disappear ( either running back to W,or getting scared or 'giving space'-- idea is the same),is a keeper others are not even another thought.
I am sorry for the mess you are in.

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