Controversial---Men Cheat Down

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Controversial---Men Cheat Down
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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 2:08am

OK, I have been seeing a bunch of articles and news stories about men "cheating down" lately (think Jesse James and Tiger).

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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 7:14am
Never really thought of it that way. But must admit my AP has a beautiful wife, is wealthy with
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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 9:58am

I have read and heard this theory posed. IDK...I guess if we're talking Jesse James, Tiger Woods, etc...those seem to bolster the argument. Like anything else, I'm not so sure "real" society is mirrored through celebrities.


In my case...it's absolutely not true. I'm in a much better financial situation and socially...ugh...IDK, I hate to sound snobbish b/c that's TOTALLY not me, but I'd guess from the outside looking in, people would probably place me a little higher than AP...This is something AP and I have talked about :( It bothers him to some degree and makes him a little insecure...He's never come right out and said it, but he feels

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 1:27pm

Hmmm....not sure if I agree with this.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 1:02am

Yeah, I kind of figured there would be a mix of answers.

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 10:54am

I think it's an interesting theory and I think it's true sometimes - not always (for sure). I also think that it's true for women sometimes.

With men, sometimes they have a "Madonna/whore" syndrome where they can't get "down and dirty" so to speak with their wives - they have to find someone they consider already somewhat "dirty" to have great, uninhibited sex with.

Also, sometimes, I think we lower our standards with an AP compared to what we would want to have with a lifetime partner - again, not always, and again, as true for women as for men.

For instance, a woman might very well consider having an A with someone unemployed or someone not making much money or having much in the way of material things, but never consider a serious relationship and possible marriage with someone like that. It's not that we're "gold-diggers", it's just that we're programmed to look for a man (for marriage) who can best help us raise children etc. - it's kinda in the DNA for us to do so.

Interesting theory though - hope that it gets some more discussion here.

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Registered: 05-25-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 7:43pm

This is my take on it.... When the man feels himself that he "married up", or he thinks his wife feels that she "married down" through her words or actions,

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 12:36am

Here's my theory: it depends on the type of cheating.