This could be bad....

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Registered: 12-09-2003
This could be bad....
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Tue, 12-09-2003 - 9:03pm
My MM and I agreed that this was only going to be something we did under the circumstances we are under. We are both married and want to stay married when we get home. So it should be a physical only thing, right? No emotional part at all, but the other night he stayed with me and held me and kissed me every other minute. But we both said that we wanted to spend time with each other, but is it bad to get emotional....shouldn't we just stay with the physical thing?
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Registered: 11-28-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 9:10pm
This is just my opinion from personal experience, but once the emotions are involved it makes it that much harder in the end. My MM and I became the very best of friends and had awesome sex, but when things came up that we needed to end it (because neither one of us were going to leave our spouses), it made it SO much harder. It's one thing to wean yourself off of the adrenaline rush of "being together", but when you become emotionally involved, when you aren't together your heart is crushed and then your (or my) judgement becomes SO clouded. But yes, there are people out there that can keep the emotions out of it and just be in it for the sex, more power to them... that just wasn't my experience and now I am paying for it. Good luck to you and your MM, I hope everything works out ok.

~Serenity

P.S. everyone is SO right here when they say, keep things simple, don't over analyze things... but boy, that is easier said than done, for me anyway :-)
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 9:17pm
Keeping the emotions out is easier said than done. I think that it is most important for the playing field to be even. You are both M. You both have no intentions of leaving your marriage. The playing field is even, for now. If things change for either of you, it could be more complicated. If you both want the same out of the relationship, then it could be wonderful for both of you! Enjoy your A and don't let it cloud your head.

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Registered: 12-09-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 9:20pm
Thanks! I think I am going to give it some time. The EMA has only been going on for a couple weeks, so hopefully time will tell. This is the first time I have ever done this, but not the first EMA that my MM has had....so he may be better than I thought at leaving the emotional part out of it. I just hope that I can!!