Could use an objective point of view!

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Could use an objective point of view!
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:26am
Me and OM spoke Friday afternoon making arrangements to get together Monday night. Well Friday night I went over a mutual guy friends house and OM ended up showing up there. I was really into this movie we were watching and OM started rubbing my back. I didn't really respond to him because I wanted to watch this movie.

Well, today we were talking through email and I asked if he was coming up tonight and he said no-he was going to lift weights. I got upset because we made plans on Friday afternoon and he was selling me out to lift weights! So I emailed him saying whatever! He emailed me back saying Ok-have a nice night! So then I emailed him saying Have a nice life! Then he emailed me back with: Yeah that reaction was warranted!!! What's your problem anyway, I never said I was definitely coming up in the first place, I said I would see, and second thing is if I did come up, would you have anything to say to me, because you sure didn't on Friday????

I'm hurt and upset and right now my feelings are getting the best of me! I need someone's objective view to see if I am overreacting or not. Am I wrong for not talking to him anymore or should I try to email him tomorrow and work this out? I am upset for being sold out to lift weights. It showed me where I stood in his priority list (not very high up there!)

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 1:40am
I can't be objective...Its hard for me to be such considering what nonsense you are throwing out there -

Why the "whatever" "have a nice life" crap.?.? I wouldn't want to deal with you either after that ...

first you blow him off -- couldn't turn around, smile sweetly and say...hey you that feels great..wanna sit next to me and watch this movie it's great ????

no...you gotta play more games

and then to say YOU ARE HURT....that is funny --- and what he wasn't hurt by your lack of affection on Friday -

You need to stop with the girlie games and treat this man with some respect if you want him to do the same for you -

Especially the email -- whatever stuff - --- that's just way immature -

Apologize and maybe if you're lucky he will do the same -

Remember you aren't the only one with feelings in all this -

Kikki

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:23am


"It showed me where I stood in his priority list (not very high up there!)"

I believe you showed him where he stands on your priority list on Friday night.

JMHO

Red

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:38am
I agree.