Could we ever really be together?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2010
Could we ever really be together?
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 8:41pm

So today my guy told me he will never leave me again.

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Registered: 12-28-2009
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 12:05am

Wow Kitty, I feel like we are living the same A!


My AP has been honest from the beginning that while he is NOT happy with his GF, she is a good woman and he doesn't want to hurt her. His real reason for staying is their 2 year old daughter. He has said many times that if they did not have a daughter, he would most likely not still be with her. He would be man enough to leave because he's unhappy if it wasn't for the fact that choosing to leave will mean choosing to see less of his daughter. As a single mother, I understand where he's coming from and I have zero intention of pushing him either way on any kind of decision about his R even if it kills me sometimes.


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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 1:05pm

I am also SW with MM and do understand how difficult it is !! its heartbreaking sometimes but we have reached a peaceful place , not without our share of ups and downs though.

Its the same with me,I dont date others.I gave up a while ago and my AP gave me a ring to wear.I didnt ask for it.He has since taken off his wedding band.These are little things but huge if you think it over!

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Registered: 01-12-2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 1:21pm

That is huge Lovingdoll that he gave you a ring and doesn't wear his wedding ring anymore.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 2:28pm
I have been with my MM for 2 years now.They were going to D but we were caught big time in his house and then she wanted to give it a try! His kids are small and he is a great dad,the kind I would always want for my kids.Lots of drama from her but we are going strong.
My AP gave me the ring and I was on cloud nine!! The feeling of being 'owned' by him is great- a huge turn on and he loves it too.He also says that its a turn on and makes sure to show it in his way;),lol!
Once you stop waiting and taking it for what it is,then things get easier,well, they did get for me!I cant be more contended.
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Registered: 01-12-2010
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 10:06pm

We have been together for almost 16 months.

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 12:09pm
Ap not wearing the wedding ring is really symbolic.
Wearing the ring from you in its place is joyful.
It is really in the contentment of oneself that gives happiness,
I experienced that with my GF, actually until now, i quietly observed the ring thing.
Only in that aspect separate a boy to a man and a man to a girl
when i was young (chuckle, few yrs ago) i'm exulted and happy to see it(ring) happened.
i guess like girls, being a young man gave me happiness and emotional freedom,
but a boy becomes a man, w/c i am now, like others, i can still feel that happiness to see her wearing the ring, ( i gave her 3 eternities, gold, silver and gold w/ darker shade), but the happiness is not enough because having her is now more important, reality than symbolic.
This is where the man gets jealous, possessive and flips out just to think you will be with another AP.
You're all lucky bec you found contentment and understanding, it cannot be always said to a man.

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