counting down the days
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counting down the days
| Thu, 08-21-2003 - 7:32pm |
Me and MM been off this week, it's been hard. Four days until i speak to him again, yes i'm counting. I miss him so much, and i hope he misses me too. Does anyone else feels like this when you're away? I haven't seen him in almost three weeks and will only see him next week, and i just can't wait. But the time waiting is killing, and i just hope that time won't distance him away from me...

Although I'm the one
that is M, basically
I'm the OW to my OM's
work. Which works well
in our situation, but I
do miss him terribly.
I haven't seen him since
the 4th of August, but
that's because we had ended
our EMA... (Long story) but
I think we're working it out.
Hugs, hang in there! ~passion
I think, because of the timing of this separation, the adage 'abscence makes the heart grow fonder' really did come true in my instance. Hopefully it will work that way for you, too. OM and I enjoyed a wonderful and tender reunion and our relationship has just grown so very much more serious. I believe it's because of that time apart when we were each off on vacations with our 'others' (me with my H and he with his g/f). Those vacations of ours really allowed us to examine what is going on at our homes as well as what we mean to each other.
But it was soooo hard some days!!! Even now, I hate our days off. We work together and because we're such a good team at work, our boss has unofficially gotten us to share districts and because of that, we're not allowed to take time off at the same time. So we see each other on Wednesdays and weekends. He has off M-Tu and I have off Th-F. But, we email and I call him.
I just reminded myself that single people who are 'real' couples frequently only see each other a couple of times a week and they exist quite well between dates with just a phone call or two, maybe an email or two. I think I'm allowing the very nature of the affair and the inherent insecurities within it to get the better of me if I can't see him everyday and be 'assured' of his love for me.
So, I decided I was being childish and immature and to not obsess so much over him on my days off. To get on with my life, enjoy the daily phone call and the emails, but go on living happily by myself until I see him again.
I'll let you know when this new attitude works. LOL!!
{{HUGS}} I know it's hard....I'll be thinking of you!
Lucky
And, as I mentioned in my earlier post, if you were both single, were dating but not yet living together, would you see each other each and every single day? Would you talk to each other each and every single day? I never did in my previous relationships, although my best friend insisted on it from her boyfriends. So everyone's different in how much they need contact. If your dating history is such that you liked to speak with your boyfriends every day and you're not getting that in this relationship, then I think it's at least reasonable to bring it up with MM and see what you can work out. If, on the other hand, in previous relationships you did frequently go a day or two without talking to your SO, then I think it's reasonable to cut MM some slack and let him not worry about the risk of calling you on his days off.
Having NC on days off is not, in and of itself, a sign of disrespect. Due to the nature of affairs, I think we do have to bend some rules we normally have in other relationships. BUT, if you are feeling like this is just 'one more proof' of his lack of caring for you, then trust your instincts and talk to the man.
Hope I've helped. {{HUGS}}
Lucky
I try to just understand. don't get me wrong I don't like it at all, but then I have to remember he is married with kids. I'll still continue to be annoyed and frustrated when on sat or sun he doesn't call or even email. I do make sure to tell him how much it bothers me, but sometimes, it seems I'm talking to myself cause come the minute he is home. It starts qgain, but unfortunately, this all comes with the relationship. Remember, it's hard for a person to struggle with multiple things. A wife, kids and a mistress. Aarrrggg!!
Hang in there.