Couples who are in love
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Couples who are in love
| Sun, 06-21-2009 - 1:39pm |
I have had the discussion w/ my T about whether I should settle for my M - which has improved greatly thru MC over the past 3 mths - and just stick with "good and steady" - or do I risk it all for the chance at being w/ someone who feels like my soulmate . . . . my T feels that all M's cool off and no one sustains that heart brimming over feeling.
So do any of you personally know a couple who have been married more than 3 years who really love each other - who would choose each other in a heartbeat again - who tell others this person is the love of their life???

Personally, I don't believe "true love" (whatever that is) exists, at least I'm not meant to have that...
But I do know couples in my RL that are deeply in-love with each other.
I was absolutely in love with my h for at least the first 5 years of our marriage. Even in year 9, people would ask me how long we'd been married and I'd say "9 years, and I still like him." and every one always laughed at that. But now, 3 years later, we've been married 12 years and I don't still like him, not at all, can't really stand the sight of him. I find it hard to believe "these things happen."
I'm willing to take a chance on happiness. My om and I have a plan in place to help ensure we don't end up in another broken marriage. We are going into this with like minds, with like goals, with a plan and an agreement. I don't expect to always feel madly in love with him, but I do expect that once in a while, he'll walk in the room and my heart will skip a beat and my soul will sing. Doesn't have to happen every day, but it does have to happen for me. If it doesn't, we have a plan to get that back. And we both worked on the plan and both agree with the plan. That is one huge difference between om and h. My om has dreams and goals and the ability to map out a road to achieve those things, my h is perfectly content just the way things are.... I'm not.... So, the big D will sure help that along the way.
My mom and my step dad have been married for 16 years.
"So do any of you personally know a couple who have been married more than 3 years who really love each other - who would choose each other in a heartbeat again - who tell others this person is the love of their life???"
Yep. My parents. Married 54 years and crazy about each other.
Truly soul mates.
I've been married 31 years and the first 25 were wonderful; I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. Sadly, very sadly, things have changed.
So, yea....I believe there are a lot of people out there that have been married a long time and are very happy.
Yes, I know couples who have been in love over 3 years and are still madly in love.
It takes both people to make it work, though. They both have to pay attention to the marriage and make it their first priority in life.
Sadly, my marriage ended when my H stopped trying. It wasn't enough that I tried alone. Without him paying attention to my needs, I eventually stopped loving him and ended up in an affair and we divorced.
I'm happier now, but still sad that the marriage didn't work out. I was married for 27 years.
Am hoping to find that love again. I noticed another poster sort of said what I say now: When you find love, true love, don't take it for granted or it will die. If you both keep your relationship a priority, everything should be fine.