Court Date w the W!!!!

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Court Date w the W!!!!
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Fri, 12-05-2008 - 5:16pm

1st off I apologize for the spelling I a PISSED and FRAZZLED..


Need major advice..


I have been in a A with a MM

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 5:26pm

do I actually hve to state what my issue is here? I dont want to see her, I dont want to wear that SCARLET A on my chest, I dont want her to lie on me (more on that later) I just want the damn contact to stop. I get it I REALLY DO. Your H is gone and its BECUZ of that OW, life was perfect until she came along & I will SHOW HER.


except she has forgotten this isnt the first time he left her, they argued horribly for years and according to him he had slept on the couch for almost a year. She refuses to work a job, she has no friends left willing to handle her attitude and she is deep in her religion which confirms she is always right and everyone around her including the kids are sinners if they dont follow that path.<---lil rant there sorry.


so on his birthday she got a restraining order on him saying he had abused her and the kids on a particular day (um, we were in constant conversation that day impossible) but the he couldbt talk to his kids for two weeks due to her lies. It was dropped the day before she started calling me again. The judge who met with them at he first two weeks on NC told her that she was a disgrace to women, that she intenionlly came into his court with malice and hatred in her heart for this man who has clearly not done anything to her except leave her. He said he did NOT believe her claims of abuse during this session but feels that this marriage has had some physical alteration over the 10+ years...he said he despised women like her.


The judge I will be seeing next week? SAME JUDGE?!!? Good? Bad? My favor? Hers? Does it look like I am rebelling on something?


ugh, I need a drink BAD!

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 10:16pm
The only advice I can offer - ignore her!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 10:19pm

OK... ann... first of all... take a deep breath and relax.

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Sat, 12-06-2008 - 12:59pm

{{HUGS}}


Had my drink had a day to calm down and yet AGAIN I thank the sane comments from all on these boards!! I do have some records that show her number AND his DD's number that she called me from as well as MANY UNAVAILABLE calls that came in (hard to prove) but when I got no calls from her I NEVER received an UNAVAILABLE call come in....I'm registered on teh DO NOT CALL list for goodness' sake.


I tried with my company's cell phone records but unless I get a subpeona for the deleted texts..nothing can be done. I will though take mama's advice and have the secretary & my assistant draft & sign a letter that the calls did in fact come in to my work number as they have to answer my calls or check my messages if I'm not there. I will get days, as I have record of them (damn I guess my TYPE A personality came in handy here!)


Yes, I guess having the same judge will be a good thing. Both MM and I decided that when her RO against him was dropped - she went "crazy" and started again with the calls to me..as he won't answer her calls. I really truly didnt want to change my number because of her - (I have had it for over 7 years now) and of course no cant change my work number but I certainly will IF the judge chooses not to see my side of it.


I do plan to ignore her and NONE of my records show where I contacted her so it'll be TOUGH as nails for that kind of LIE to come out of her mouth. I wont be bringing anyone with me though :-( She may have someone with her but not me...even though my assistant would come with me or even the secretary will, there will be NO way for me to get them out of work for my PERSONAL issues...and it is on a work day and the other friend who would come in support JUST had a baby a few days ago <--cant ask HER to leave the baby of course. and baaaaad idea for MM to come here although it would be so DAMNED funny for her to see MM and I in a united front but dont worry ladies (& any gents) I'm not crazy <---won't even go THERE!


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Registered: 01-21-2007
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 4:16pm

UPDATE:


RESTRAINING ORDER WAS GRANTED!!


Hats off to Mamaladybug who called it...she never even showed up. My assumption..she was scared as she did do the wrong thing.


I am in a great mood!