Cowboy news

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Registered: 07-26-2012
Cowboy news
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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 12:26am

Well, papers didn't get signed.  She came back with a ridiculous demand (lifetime support) so they went back into discussions.  Supposed to get them drawn up this coming week.  He finally talked to all of his kids.  One isn't handling it too great but the others weren't really surprised or bothered.  He's not sure if she told them all about me but he does know at least one knows since she made a snarky remark about me in front of one of them.

And I didn't get to move in on the 23rd.  The guys decided to go ahead with remodeling the bathroom and were way outside of their ability I think.  I do have some of the house set up but no water or heat yet.

We're doing great though.  We had a slight rough patch when he went to sign papers and got hit with her ridiculous demand.  He froze up on me in text so I told him I was on my way out to my new house and he could come over.  He showed up and thawed immediately.  I think it helped drive home the fact that we both have to keep talking to each other.  I love this guy more every day and it always amazes me that loving him more is even possible.  The way his eyes light up when he sees me just sets my heart flying.  He's goofy and sweet.  I'm laughing and smiling so much that I have new wrinkles. I told him this is his sly way of trying to make me look older.  He just replied with something so off the wall, I couldn't help but laugh.

He told our supervisor at our volunteer job.  He shook Cowboy's hand and told him congratulations.  I told my boss and she had all sorts of questions, including "is he a good kisser?"  Haha.  The girls at the ranch were thrilled (one said it was the best news she ever heard).  Cowboy even called my boss after I talked to her to make sure that she was okay with it and that I wasn't going to get fired.  She told me that he said that he was crazy about me and couldn't imagine life without me.  Awww.

He went with me to get my new bed and mattress, pick out linens and kitchen stuff.  It felt so good to be out in public with him and not have to hide.  He even went shopping today while I was out of town and found me a cute little table.  

We haven't told the kids that I'm moving out yet.  BUT I had a great conversation with my oldest about my brother's ex girlfriend (they broke up because her kids didn't want her dating anyone after she divorced their dad) and she said she didn't think it was fair to expect someone to be alone forever and if they're happy, the kids should have an open mind.  I'm not sure she'll feel that way about ME but boy that was a relief to hear.

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 9:21am

Cowgirl

I haven't been here in a while, so I don't know the details, but it sounds great ! Your story really touched me and I'm glad that it's going where you wanted it to. All the best to both of you ! A difficult ex can spoil the relationship, but I'm sure you can find ressources on how to deal with it. There used to be a message board on ivillage where it was possible to get advice, but I don't know now.

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Registered: 05-29-2012
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 10:44am
Awww Cowgirl, so happy for you :) Just be patient with the paper signing thing. I can finally call my AP my DF. After almost 3mths of his xW demanding ridiculous things he got his papers signed 2weeks ago. So you'll be spending the holidays with Cowboy? And will you be breaking the news to your kids after or before Cowboy is officially divorced? I am so happy for you!
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Registered: 07-26-2012
Sun, 12-02-2012 - 11:41pm

Whoa.  I didn't realize the original post had actually posted.  It errored on me twice and I gave up and left.

Told my kids and they're handling it really well.  The oldest is excited that she finally gets a guinea pig.  My stbx refused to let her have one.  I always wanted one so we voted and how about that, we won.  She picked out their beds and Cowboy is going with me next weekend (STBX's weekend with the kids) to pick them up and get them set up for the following weekend.  I move into the new house on Friday.  He's been going around with me picking up antiques and setting up the house.  I love this guy.  

Told my parents.  They handled it well too.  My dad is concerned I'm going to get taken advantage of by some jerk of a guy.  I have a feeling they're going to like Cowboy.

I finally got to see his house.  We went out on an emergency and since it was so late when we got done, I followed him home and stayed the night there.  It took me three days to catch up on the lack of sleep.  Also saw a picture of her.  I am as opposite as you could possibly get in looks.  He really does want me to move in with him.  My lease is 6 months and then month-to-month after that.  He's pretty sure that I'll be moving in with him at the start of summer.  I told him he has 6 months to convince me that that's a good idea.  The major deciding factor is how my kids react to him when I introduce him in 4 months.

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 4:32pm

You know, your story resonates with me.  AP and I are both separated getting divorced.  I love him so much.  And somehow the more we're together the more I love him.  I would never think it possible.  His eyes shine, especially when I smile.  And around him, I'm always smiling, always.