Crappy Day w/ AP & WIFE!
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| Fri, 10-17-2008 - 1:59am |
I knew that today wasn't going to be a great day, because my 6 yr. old son was having surgery on both eyes. I didn't know that I would be spending the day w/ AP AND his W.
I am really grateful that she feels so much love and care for AP's and my "love child," but today was really emotional for me.I was glad when AP got the day off, and we would be there together w/ our son. I didn't know SHE was coming. When I first saw her I was like "Oh no, you've got to be kidding."
First, when they put my son asleep he flipped out JUST before he went out. He was fine breathing the gas, and just as his eyes were shutting he Kirked out. That upset me, because his eyes were rolling back in his head, and they (3 nurses, the doctor, and me) had to restrain him. Finally he went to sleep.
Then I was in the waiting room w/ them for an hour and a half. I could FEEL her looking me over. I am like 15 yrs younger than her, and not to toot my own horn, but I am WAY better looking than her too. I know that sounds immature, but it is what it is. I felt like she was looking every inch of me over, and over. Part of me was like "Yeah, this is what he's getting." But most of me was sad for her. She knows that he is leaving now.
So then my son comes out of surgery, and is flipping out once again. They shot him up w/ morphine 4 times before he calmed down. That was very upsetting for me, because my son has a dynamic personality, and to see him so out of character was difficult. I wanted AP to be able to comfort me after our son was better, but instead we stood on opposite sides of the bed looking at each other. He kept mouthing "I am sorry." I was like "Whatever."
We ended up staying in the recovery room for a long time because of the amount of morphine they gave my son. Great, more quality time for the FOUR us. I was so glad to get out of there, for more than one reason.
My son was fine after we got home. He's back to his awesome self. Thank God for that. I don't know I just feel so sad after today, and not because of my little boy. He's fine. It was just seeing her there w/ him. She should have just stayed her a** at home, so I could go through that w/ AP alone, but I suspect that she came just to keep that from happening. I am not really sure what her motives were. Perhaps I just think the worst because of the situation.
Oh, OMG the nurse waited until AP, and W left, and asked me what was up w/ the W. When the doctor came in to answer any questions he shook her hand, and asked who she was, and nobody said anything. I thought that AP was going to say this is my wife or whatever, but nobody said anything. Then the nurse was asking me after they left if I was w/ AP. I said yes, and she ask me again who she was, and I was like "His wife." She had the nerve to ask me if they were together. I just said "It's complicated." She was like "Ohhhhh OK. I get it." LMAO. Some people.
Thanks for letting me vent. I needed it.

Wow.
i have a question....????
what the "F" would make him bring her..? i'm really confused..especially considering the situation...okay i understand that she loves your son but she should have sent him a teddy bear with a card from her or something..oh heck naw...not to get it started but, what was all that about....?
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Oh Justice -
Honey - I am so sorry to read about your little guy - and so thankful to know that all went well and he is back on track.
Sorry about your son.
I am w/ both of you on the question of why he brought her. I mean she knows now that he is leaving, why is it so important that she still be supportive? He has told me that things between them are crappy at best. I haven't had a chance to ask him, because he pissed me off Wednesday, and I am on strike. I sent him an email, and blasted his a** out. I told him I need a break from him.
I thought that it was me. I was like WTF is she doing here? That's OUR son. I mean I know she feels insecure because they don't have any children together, but d*mn.
I don't know if it's just my roller coaster going down or what, but I am starting to rethink this whole thing. I don't like some of the behavior that AP is showing, and it's really bothering me. I have remained silent, but supportive. I told him that I would assume whatever role he needed me to during his transition. Whether it be to step back, and let him do his thing or to be his cheerleader, and constant confidant, or anything in between. I have been VERY unselfish, perhaps too much so. I think that I have made this so much about what he feels that WE have both totally overlooked all of my feelings. I am just afraid that I am setting a president of how things will go in the future. I don't want him to get use to the fact that my feelings can be secondary to his.
You know, another thing that I found kind of strange that she did. In September my son turned 6, and AP bought him a really nice new bike, and BOTH of them came over to my house. I thought "OK, why didn't you just pick him up, and take him to your house?" I mean she was IN my house for like a half hour. That struck me as odd, but I just blew it off.
He just called after he read the email I sent him, and he is upset. I asked him about her coming to the hospital, and he said that she waited until he was walking out the door, and just asked if she could go, so he said yes. He told me that she generally loves my our son, and wanted to make sure that he was OK. I was like "Whatever." I am so mad at him right now that I didn't want to talk to him. That's very unusual for me. I don't know folks. I hope that this is not the beginning of the end.
Thank you all for your well wishes for my son, and the feed back that you gave. I appreciate knowing that I am not alone.
You are right about one thing, and I have A LOT of respect for her because of this, but she generally takes the high road. When I got pregnant all three of us were working in the same division, and of course everyone was having a ball at our expense. When it came out that AP had a vasectomy five yrs. prior I was crushed, because now everyone was like dag she cheated on him. Of course just having lost him back to her, and the hormones of being pregnant I did not take the news well. But she conducted herself in a very mature, and dignified way. I was impressed. So I do give her kudos for that also, but I think like tyger why couldn't she just send a card, and a bear or something.
I give it to her though she is willing to put aside our differences for the well being of our son. I don't know if I would be as good as her.
Justice, please DO NOT reply to any more of the posts by the trolls. By doing so you in the manner you have, you are also in violation of TOS. Please hit the 'ignore poster' link on the lhs of the posts.
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