craziness update continued

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Registered: 12-19-2003
craziness update continued
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:15am
As for my own M, my H was shutting himself away from me, a lot like his dad, and our sex life, which had been wonderful, before the two pregnancies, and 3 kids, and even for a while after, had become virtually non-existent. I had also had a hysterectomy due to complications with the twins, and sex was a bit painful now that I didn't have as much 'room'. I am very playful sexually, and always flashing him, talking dirty, being naughty, all of this was getting laughed at, rebuffed, being told to knock it off, etc. This was giving me a general feel of being undesirable, and I looked pretty good for someone who had had 4 kids, not perfect, but good, nonetheless. I am medicated and in therapy for depression, and bi-polar illness, after the hysterectomy, and it took a while to hone in on all the right meds, but we had found the right combinations, and I was doing pretty well. I had many discussions with my H about how unhappy I was with everything he was doing and not saying to me, and our lack of a sex-life, trying to let him know that there was a problem. Do not get me wrong, he works hard, he is an excellent father, and a great help around the house, cooks, cleans, etc. But, there was never any time left for me, and I let him know that we were missing what we used to have and that I wanted it back. All to no avail. More later on the juicy stuff, he's back....