Crazy drama with MM's stbXW

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Crazy drama with MM's stbXW
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 3:39pm
I just need to vent and since you guys have been there since the very first time I considered starting the A I thought I would tell you guys what happened this weekend. As you know I left H and MM left W...we were all friends.

Well, after an incredibly romantic weekend in California we came back to the heat and not 30 minutes after we were back I got jumped by stbXW and her fat sister. Little 110lb me taking on two chicks twice my weight! Of course MM and my uncle pulled us all apart but of course, later that night she came back with 4 friends. Fortunately, my sister was there although we had been out drinking....heavily. It turned into a HUGE brawl in MM's front yard. How old are we?! Last time I checked this was the kind of thing I did in high school. It is absolutely ridiculous but of course, I am not going to sit back and get hit so my sister and I rocked them.

The part that really bothers me is that she started a fight that now she realizes she can't finish and she is punishing MM's kids for it. She hasn't let him see them since this happened Sunday night and he was supposed to have them Sun, Mon, and Tuesday. Plus, this is his weekend with the kids and she won't even let him TALK to them. She wants two things from him before he can even talk to his kids.

1. Break up with me and never talk to me again

2. Pay child support for both kids or see neither (he found out just about a month ago that his oldest DD wasn't even his! Although he is continuing to take care of her and love her and continue letting her believe he is her true father he doesn't feel he should have to pay child support for her and I don't blame him. I think he is being more than a man by still taking her every other weekend and during the week!)

Anyway, to make matter worse, when stbXW and her sister jumped me, his kids were in her car (is she crazy?!) and saw the whole thing. If she ever does let him see his kids again and I am there it is going to be really uncomfortable for them considering they saw me hit their mom and aunt...although I was only defending myself.

And to make matters worse, she is getting a restraining order on ME because I hurt her in the fight. What did she think was going to happen? When you go after someone you have to expect to get hit back. Plus, she wants a restraining order for her children against me so that I can never be around them. That makes it really difficult for me to be around MM (stb SM!) when he has his kids. She is doing everything in her power to get us to stop seeing each other. This is so unfair.

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 3:52pm
Hey, Karen... welcome back (I think -- hee hee)... do yourself and stbSM a favor.. get a restraining order yourself. At least get your side of the story on the record. Otherwise the courts may decide he can't have the kids around you, which would be horrible. Secondly... get a gun (no--- just kidding!).

Secondly... for real.... she cannot keep him from seeing the kids based on child support. In the eyes of the court the two issues are unrelated. If he hasn't done anything about custody / visitation, he needs to get an order in place asap. He who files first usually wins.

Good luck, hon. It will be worth it all in the end.

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 3:55pm


My stars! I am glad you had a wonderful weekend with your man, but dang, sorry you had to come home to that. Were the police ever called? Have you considered bringing charges against her for harassment, and battery for thowing the first punch? Document everything you can, you need a paper trail for to prove this women is bad news. You could probably get her for terroristic threating too. Wow, keep us posted and good luck.