Crossing the line

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Registered: 02-10-2007
Crossing the line
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Mon, 01-26-2009 - 6:18am
Hi everyone,
Just after some advice as I'm a little confused and am unsure if this man I met has crossed the line between friend and wanting more.
Anyway, I've only know him for a short while and he has never told me he was married, although his friend told me he was and he admitted it when I confronted him about it. He also told me he has 2 children as well.
Anyway, the other night we were out at a bar and he told me that he liked me, although I think the words came out without him thinking about it because he seemed to regret it the moment he said it, judging by the look on his face, as did he when he said i was the perfect woman.
He flirted with me all night and didn't leave my side and if I did happen to be talking to my girlfriends I could see him out of the corner of my eye jusy watching me all the time. At one stage I was across the table from him and it was loud so we couldn't hear each other and he just kept trying to catch my eye to smile at me.
I'm going traveling for a few months and he asked if we could catch up when I got home so that we could run amok together - which I don't really understand the meaning of and he later started telling my single girlfriends to never get married as it's not that great. i heard him say it was hard, to which i responded that it shouldn't be hard etc and he didn't say anything.
What do you all think is going on here. I am very attracted both physically and emotionally to this man and I would love some advice.
Thanks!
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Registered: 02-09-2008
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 6:28am

He's sending you the signals and waiting for you to take the bait.

My advice - RUN. Run far and fast away from a MM. You won't believe the mess it will make of your life. You didn't say but I take it you're single? Don't waste your time with a MM it will likely spell disaster. If you're single date single men!

Do I sound negative? I am. I stupidly started to hope that I was one of the 2% for whom A's become real life R's. I am separated but was M when I started seeing a MM a year ago. He separated too before Xmas and everything was wonderful, things were progressing slowly. He asked me to move in but I thought it was too soon. Then the holidays came along and things went down the toilet while he went back home with his family and kids. Then finally we were getting back to 'normal' (as normal as they are in an A) until a week or so ago.

Today drops the bombshell. He hopes to go back to W and if he does, then he must focus on his M and not see me again. So we've gone from deciding date openly to dumping me in the space of about a week. Did I mention that I fell in love along the way? You can't believe the pain an A will cause you.

Pisces




Edited 1/26/2009 6:30 am ET by pisces2008
pisces
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Registered: 01-22-2009
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 7:53am
Well said....... these are very tepid waters - and would never advise anyone to ever even dip a toe - find another pond. Once your in this one its tough to come up for air - or dry off........
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Registered: 10-22-2008
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 12:21pm

I have to agree......he