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| Mon, 12-22-2008 - 7:46am |
Hi Ladies, I know this is open to everyone's own definition, but what would you consider to be "crumbs" in an A.?
| Mon, 12-22-2008 - 7:46am |
Hi Ladies, I know this is open to everyone's own definition, but what would you consider to be "crumbs" in an A.?
Crumbs..I know all about crumbs! I would say just being in an A is one big crunchy bowl of crumbs! Because you're never getting the whole package. You are never truly seeing the real guy. He's like the cheap, plastic toy at the bottom of the box. When you were little you were so excited to see what that toy was but remember how disappointed you became when you got the actual toy? You realized it was just some cheap, little thing that never made you jump for joy..yes that TOY!
So, I liken my XAP to that so called surprise TOY at the bottom of the box! A disappointing handful of crumbs surrounded by a meaningless, plastic, artificial TOY!!
Happy Holidays Everyone!!
The lost little mouse
Once upon a time there were three little mice who lived in a laboratory. As an experiment, the scientists at the lab created a maze for the lab mice to run through. The maze had two paths. One path was littered with delicious little crumbs along the way, but at the end of that path was a not-so-nice surprise. A mouse that chose that path would get a big electrical shock when she pushed the big red button that was supposed to release the rest of the treats. The other path didn’t have any tasty morsels to distract the little mice on their journey. However, a mouse that chose this path would be rewarded with her hearts desire when she pushed the big red button at the end.
Of course all three mice chose to take the first path on their first journey. After all, what mouse could resist the scrumptious little tidbits scattered along the way? But after receiving that first nasty shock at the end of the path, two of the mice immediately made the decision to take the other path. They missed the treats along the way, but the big reward at the end made the sacrifice seem minor.
The third mouse however, decided she would take the same path she did before. There couldn’t be pain waiting for her again, could there? Maybe this time the ending would be different. Besides, those juicy little crumbs were calling her name.
Months later all three mice were hanging out in their cage chatting. Two of the mice were well-fed, relaxed and happy. They were the mice that figured out that the path to happiness was not littered by crumbs. The other mouse was undernourished, unhappy and afraid to trust her own judgment. This was the mouse who, regardless of the pain she received, never changed paths.
“Why do you keep choosing the same path over and over again?” asked one of the happy mice.
“I don’t know,” replied the unhappy mouse. “I guess I keep hoping eventually something will change. Besides, there are all those delicious crumbs I pick up along the way.”
“But don’t you realize that if you settle for crumbs, all you will ever get is crumbs?” asked the other happy mouse.
“That and a big dose of pain at the end of your journey,” added the first happy mouse.
The unhappy mouse sighed and said, “I don’t know if I can change. Change is scary. Maybe I should just stick with what I know. Besides, I might get lost along the way.”
“No you won’t!” replied both happy mice in unison. “Follow us! We’ve been there, done that. We can show you the way. If you falter, we’ll be right behind you encouraging you every step of the way. If you fall, we’ll pick you up. You are not alone.”
True to their word the happy mice showed the little lost mouse the path to happiness. It wasn���t always easy. There were times that the lost mouse really wanted those crumbs. But together they got through it.
You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present
Crumbs is all you will ever get if you stay in an A as "just" a OW. What is "crumbs"? It's little attentions here and there (but never enough to keep you content), promises of a future that usually never materialized, compliments and praises that strokes your ego to keep you coming for more, your AP feeding your addiction to that "little" feel good you're getting knowing full well they'll never be able to free themselves for you, etc....
What I don't get is why we women are settling for so little.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Goddess - so true.
Gal-E
I consider crumbs to be anything less than working towards a real, open to the public, relationship.