curious

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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:24pm

Yesterday when I was on a date with AP my DH called me. I answered his call as always (I never ignore them) and talked to him for a couple of minutes. AP knew that it way my DH and instead of giving me some privacy started hugging and kissing me. It's not a first time that he did it. I asked him if he is marking his territory and he just smiled at me. If he gets a call or text, I always walk away, but he does the opposite: he even tries to read the texts if they are from DH. Does anybody else's AP do the same thing? Is he doing it for a self-satisfaction or is he just jealous? A few times AP told me that when he saw me with my DH, he wanted to just come over to us and start kissing me in front of DH. I know he wouldn't do it because he is M and has a lot to loose just like me... but it seems like hugging and kissing me while I am talking on the phone with DH gives him some satisfaction

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In reply to: findfreedom
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 5:02pm

Seems very selfish and rude to me. I'd never stand for such behavior. I am like you, giving AP the space she needs when talking with family. Joking or not, I would not be happy with this at all. And she can get any texts or messages and she has the choice to tell me who they are from, what they are about, I don't ask. And she's the same with me. From day one, we've established the ground rule that, especially since this is an A, that we'd have ultimate unquestioned trust with each other, and show respect for each other's space and privacy. We are APs, not each others' spouses or parents. And it's worked just fine.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 1:48pm
I agree with never. I think it's an immature thing he's doing. It might be his way of "one upping" your H, in his mind. I would not like it at ALL. My OM would never do that. But it's up to you whether it's behavior you can tolerate or not. I just hope he honors your wishes if you tell him to stop.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 2:18pm

Hi Freedom,


Yes he does get satisfaction from it without a doubt. I think that's your AP's little power trip and feels he has to prove something to himself by doing all the "extra" while your on the phone with H. Its really not necessary and I wouldn't tolerate that behavior at all. If you feel uncomfortable with it I'd let him know and hope he respects you enough not to do it again.

 


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Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: findfreedom
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 4:41am

Yep Im with you guys.


Find, he and you have to respect your H. Having an A is the worst thing you can be doing, dont make it worse by making him the butt of some kind of inside joke.


I agree with the others, ask him to stop.


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