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Curious About Love
| Tue, 07-27-2010 - 4:33pm |
From reading many of the posts here it seems a majority of you are in love with your AP. Right now I am in an EAP and it hasn't turned physical yet. I wonder if once it does, is that when most of you began to realize you are in love with your APs? If I think about it, right at this moment, I do not love my EAP, but I am very fond of him and very attracted to him. Could I fall in love with EAP in the future? Well anything is possible. So my question is, did you fall in love with AP before or after the A became a PA?

Hi jersey,
Although I had deep feelings and cared for AP before it became a PA, I think that I definately fell in love after the PA started.
ali...Your statement about whether the word "love" actually means that much in an affair got me to thinking.
If you go to EAS or the "Both sides" board, you will find some heated arguments about whether AP's really "love" each other, with some pretty strong statements that it is impossible to have real love in an A.
I think it is possible to love in an A relationship.
There have been situations all through human history where people fall in love with someone they can not be with, and they can't show it to them "every day in every way", and it wasn't always an affair situation. Sometimes it was a class thing, sometimes a racial thing - societies weren't always like ours is today, it's sometimes hard to remember.
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I've been in an emotional relationship with OM for almost 5 years.
Well, shoot...Lexi and Bird got in here first and stole my thunder :)~
I have also read all the "debates" on whether or not love is possible in an A. And I fully understand/see both sides/rationales. I just can't buy them both, though.
There are so many people in my life whom I love...and I love them in different ways. I know I'm sick and twisted, but I can't wrap my mind around why my feelings for AP are not genuine because of the nature of our relationship. From what I gather, to some, if you stripped away the romantic/sexual aspect, it would then be genuine...
anotherseyes
My AP and I were in love with each other before the EA or PA started.