curious...how long in EMA?
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curious...how long in EMA?
| Wed, 03-24-2004 - 10:00am |
I am just curious as to how long each of us have been involved in our EMA, and secondly, how many have been "found out" by your H/W?

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H doesn't know, and hopefully won't ever find out either. Even when I leave, I would prefer that OM isn't in the picture.
In the beginning I sort of lead on to my H that there was another guy, just to get his attention, because I feel that he isn't interested in me anymore like a H should be. He even found a letter (to make a long story short) basically stating that I was in affair. He asked me if I was still doing it, and I said, no...and that was it, he never mentioned it again. Sometimes I think he doesn't even care.
I found out that my H was cheating on me (which I think is why I started my affair in the first place, out of revenge.) by finding a bracelet in my bed, that definitly wasn't mine!! He then finally confessed after I freaked out! pretty awfull, huh? I can't believe that I'm doing it to another wife, knowing how terrible a feeling that is. I guess I try not to think about her. I feel so terrible when I do.
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My H has suspected at times. Frankly, my H is emotionally weak and I would have respected him more if he had confronted me about this man. He is my boss and we travel occasionally together. He has also been my best friend and there for me in so many ways.
The relationship is sexual, but the emotional is the main attraction.
Wow, 9 years of the 18 I have been married.
For about a year and 1/2...but we were friends...(sort of.. he is a client of mine) for a few months before "it" started... More emotional than physical and I have a problem with it..
In all seriousness, there's a strong emotional connection and an even stronger sexual attraction. Like IBC mentioned, OM goes hot and cold as fear sets in, but I'm always hot so I make the roller coaster ride worse.
As for being found out . . . I don't think H knows. He's noticed some changes in me, but I've always got all sorts of issues going on (LOL!). A mutual friend of ours confronted OM recently and that's put him on guard. I don't think that the friend really has any idea of the extent of our relationship, but he asked enough questions to freak out MM.
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