curious...how long in EMA?

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Registered: 03-10-2004
curious...how long in EMA?
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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 10:00am
I am just curious as to how long each of us have been involved in our EMA, and secondly, how many have been "found out" by your H/W?

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 12:58pm
Six months in a mostly long distance emotional EMA.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 1:26pm


I've been with other man 3 months and I've known him for 9 months. Haven't been able to see him as much because H found out :-( And it's an ugly thing since H wants are marraige to work and be what it never has been. Good, healthy and HAPPY!

Oh, How I miss om

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 2:15pm
I've been with MM for 5 months, sexually for 3 months. How I love that man!
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 2:56pm
We have been in the A for just over 2 years now, its been a sexual relationship since the start.

Neither of us has been found out by our spouse. We only communicate during work days and try to meet about 2-4 times per month and that's during the afternoons. We live in different cities but close. He comes over here to visit me at our favorite hotel. Things have worked out really well so far. I think as long as we can continue like this it will probably last for a lot longer.

Dusty
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 3:32pm

Almost 4 years for me and MM... sexual from pretty much the start... and has gotten more emotional over the years.


DH did find out about my affair 10 months into it and I had to make big decisions and big changes... but 3 years on and all is pretty good in both my marriage and EMA... and I don't think that I give DH anything to be concerned about anymore... I'm back to being his dedicated... although more assertive and secure wife.


4 years... never in a million years would I have thought... now I don't think of a life without MM.


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Registered: 11-11-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 5:37pm
My A is very new. I am a SW, he's a MM. We have known each other for 6 months, have continually gotten closer over that time. Two weeks ago we let each other know there was mutual interest. We work in the same building so we get to see each other every day, but it kills me not to be able to touch him. There has been no physical contact yet, but we had "cyber" for the first time last night. I am keeping my fingers crossed that more may come one night next week.

It is highly unlikely MMW will find out. She lives far away and he goes home to her on weekends.

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 9:47pm
Six years and never been caught by my husband. I am going to end it though. It's horrible to be in this situation.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 7:50am
Alot of days I think about ending it with MM too. Like today being one of those days.

I don't know, I think I've developed the Man's feelings about A's.

Like "out of sight out of mind".

He made me go thru a long NC a while ago, and since then my feelings have changed somewhat. Some days I think why bother? Sure, I'm getting great sex when I see him but that's about all. And I have lots of toys now thanks to him. They work just as good as a man sometimes!! Sorry, just a down day.

Dusty
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 8:19am
I am MW and have worked with MM for 9 years. He is now my boss. We started fooling around (heavy kissing and touching but no sex) about 6 years ago and in the last 2 years things have gotten very emotional and sexual..he has the "Clinton" thing going on too! I see him almost everyday but he has gone ino his "cave" for the past few months so I don't know what is going on in his head these days. One minute I am his "soul mate" and he "could very easily be married to me" and the next minute "I can't commit to you and I will never get divorced". He has been so hot and cold lately that I am so confused. I leave the office everyday and actually cry on my way home. H caught us kissing about 3 years ago and he still hates MM because of it. It makes it difficult at office functions. I love MM and he told me a few months back that he has loved me for 6 years. I just wish I could figure out what is going on with him lately. His W found out that their neighbors H is having an affair with a co-worker and he said that since then things have been better at home. Oh well...I will invite him to lunch today and see if he accepts.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 03-25-2004 - 8:35am
I've known MM for 3 years and we have been in our A for 18 months now.

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