Curve, u called it! I dont get it!!
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Curve, u called it! I dont get it!!
| Mon, 01-11-2010 - 9:37pm |
I want to scream, I really do! The SM who last Spring came on so strong and made it very clear he was interested and then ran and disappeared after we hung out but then popped up again unexpectedly a few months later online, then we got together this past fall. We were conversing after this (I live in different state but go to his state every few months)then he disappeared again. I finally gave up and wrote him a nice note stating it seemed he didnt want to talk anymore and since the last thing I wanted to do was bother him, I was no longer going to contact him. I wished him well and said to take care. Nice note, nothing mean or derogatory. tried to keep it lite. Tonight he "shows himself" on my im and contacts me, says hi like nothing happened! Asks me when I am coming down again. What is wrong with this guy??? He seems to be what I call socially inept! He barely converses in email or IM but when face to face is much better. I don't get it! I don't know why but don't even want to ask him what the problem is unless I see him in person. The guy is driving me insane! One one hand I can say "whatever" take it for what it is and have fun or say to hell with it and don't get close again. I dont get it. he's in his 30's, not like he's a young guy! What gives!!!

I know a few of these guys. They are looking for a gap-filler and if you respond, then he has hit the jackpot. These guys (sorry, and girls where applicable) are worse than having a FWB as they ignore you until they feel like talking to you and allowing you the privelidge of their presence.
IMO, give the guy the flick fast before you make the pattern that will say its OK for him to call you anytime he wants a booty call or ego strokes.
If he can not call you occasionally to say he hasnt fallen off the face of the earth or even just to say hi and bye, then he aint worth diddly or a moment of wasted brain cells.
Edited to add: Of course he is better talking face to face- its real difficult to get you into bed over IM no matter how charming.
SB.Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Edited 1/12/2010 7:42 am ET by sometimesblue
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OH, MY GOD ARE WE DATING THE SAME MAN?
You broke it off with him? What happened that made you finally decide to do this?
Dont be too hard in your thinking, NL4M. Its the "vulnerable" part of them that sucks you in. You never think that people you meet and get along with can be that good a liar and in mid 30s, we think that we should be pretty good at spotting the con artist/player.
You dont owe Mr Whenever-I-Want-You the time of day. Next time he calls just dont answer the phone and let him call the next chicky-boo in his little black book. Calling him out on his game will make you seem like a rejected woman because he didnt want anything more than S with you, so dont even give him the satisfaction. Think of it as another lesson learned and so you can see the signs for the next man that tries it on you.
SB
My affair on this board have to be one of the most strangest.. My affair started when my mom passed away last year.