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| Thu, 07-01-2010 - 3:40pm |
Maybe it doesn't count since we were already planning on getting a D anyway, but H found out about AP.
Apparently he's had his suspicions, and after he "caught" me talking to AP the other night, used his techie knowledge to start digging up stuff I had deleted.

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Hugs another.....
OOPS ! This is where the ugly stuff begins.How are you coping? Have you told your AP about this?You better do so he is prepared for anything your H might do/say.I just hope that he doesnt throw you under the bus.
D or not,only your H knows now.
" But he's also worried that "this guy" is taking advantage of me and is only going to hurt me down the road. "
You do know your AP better than anyone but sometimes guys just 'know' other guys ,you kwim? Your H may or may not be right.
Keep us updated!
Hi Another...I'm so sorry that your H found out...even if you are already planning a divorce this is still going to be a blow to your H and make him question the motives behind the D.
Hopefully he will know (and you can tell him) that the marriage was not working even before you had an A. How has he been reacting to you since he told you that he knew? Angry, hurt, sad, everything? How much does he know from finding the deleted stuff on the computer? Is he going to
He knows a lot!
anotherseyes
I think even for her husband there is no reason to react , when she has already told him she needs divorce .
Edited 7/1/2010 6:40 pm ET by bestplayer
" But he's also worried that "this guy" is taking advantage of me and is only going to hurt me down the road. "
Because he saw a chat where I had told AP that I love him and he doesn't love me (was asking how he could understand how I was feeling), and AP changed the subject (usual MO).
anotherseyes
Well, now H is essentially blackmailing me.
anotherseyes
Hi another,
Ooh, yeah, that is a tricky situation.
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