D-Day :(

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Registered: 06-13-2006
D-Day :(
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Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:18am

I knew we should have never met at his home. On living room couch, naked...daughter skipped school, came in and caught us in the act.


I'm not sure what to expect; I guess nothing is what I expect. I would try to salvage my M if I were MM. I told him that if forced into the position to throw me under the bus, do it...I can take care of myself.


What hurts the most? Probably losing a great friend above all.


I will have to wait until he returns to work (I would expect MM and W are going to be off work a few days hashing this out) to talk to him and find out where, if anywhere, we go from here. Like I said, I don't expect anything at all.

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Registered: 01-18-2007
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:37am

OMG! I am so sorry this happend to you. I am no longer with my MM and when I read this I had flash backs of him being at my house and us getting caught. It was ALWAYS a fear of mine but I threw caution to the wind and had him over anyways. I think back now to all the things we did and wonder where was my head???


Hope you will be ok and it was very nice of you to offer yourself under the bus and walk. I know the hurt of losing a friend. Hope all goes well for you.

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Registered: 06-13-2006
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 6:26am

Maybe someday, I will be able to look back upon this and laugh...like we do with alot of things in life.


Throwing myself under the bus? I am...I am also M. I am so fearful MMs W will get enough info about me to call my H and make life a living hell. H will leave me for sure; no explanations, no forgiveness. I knew that entering the game.

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Registered: 01-12-2009
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 9:06am

Trying to send you strength for the day.

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Registered: 06-13-2006
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 9:39am
Sick to my stomach and want to crawl into myself and just cry.
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Registered: 01-18-2007
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 9:51am

"H will leave me for sure; no explanations, no forgiveness. I knew that entering the game"


Same for me..I REALLY had NO REASON to cheat on my H. He is a good man,, I was a bored housewife. It has been 6 months since we ended and I cannot tell you how free I feel. I hope your MM wife does not find out about you,, I will pray she doesn't. This is a sign..Get out now. Will your MM tell her who you are if she corners him? Did you ever talk about being together if you got caught. My MM and I never did. I knew it was just fun for the both of us. Good luck..again I hope you can slip away from this undiscovered.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 9:53am

I was caught in my home by my H. That story has been told around here many times, so I won't repeat the details. It was four years ago now and it still isn't something that I look back on and laugh about. That said, let me assure you that it *does* get better than it is right now. I promise. As with anything, time is your friend. You can't focus on what your MM is doing, you need to focus on yourself. You need to focus on what is best for you and how you will move forward. What your MM does from this point on, really doesn't matter. He is dealing with his own issues, trust me.

I truly feel for you. I know how tough this is right now. But from someone who has lived through d-day, it is survivable. Be strong.

~Shadowz
~Shadowz
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Registered: 06-13-2006
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:18am

No we never talked about being together. We entered this with the understanding we keep things in perspective and we are not leaving spouses. Perspective left a long time ago...we developed feelings and shared this fact.


I don't know if he will sell me out or not.

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Registered: 10-22-2008
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:57am

Oh Gal!


That's ROUGH......

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Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 12:47pm

Oh Gal -


Honey - I never experienced something like this - our D-day was quite a bit different - and all over the phone - but I totally understand how emotional you are today.


Try to take care of yourself - make sure you eat and drink water - and try to just go with the day - you can't change what has happened - and as Shadowz told you - she and others have had this happen and you really WILL get through it.


Keep posting when you need us - we are here for you.


Big hugs -


Tgr ;)


lightning in my heart

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Registered: 08-08-2005
In reply to: gal_anonymous1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:03pm

i hate to get lost in details when you are a wreck but ...

- how old is DD?
- will she automatically run to DW, or will MM deliver the news? i am NOT suggesting he pressure her to keep a secret, but i am wondering how she and dad will work this out and present it to DW
- did you have any time to recover your dignity before leaving?
- what was his relationship to DD before? good, distant, worshipful, hateful

those are just pieces of information to fit into the puzzle because there is nothing else to do right not. except wait. and think about another job?

Mrs.

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