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D-Day :(
| Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:18am |
I knew we should have never met at his home. On living room couch, naked...daughter skipped school, came in and caught us in the act.
I'm not sure what to expect; I guess nothing is what I expect. I would try to salvage my M if I were MM. I told him that if forced into the position to throw me under the bus, do it...I can take care of myself.
What hurts the most? Probably losing a great friend above all.
I will have to wait until he returns to work (I would expect MM and W are going to be off work a few days hashing this out) to talk to him and find out where, if anywhere, we go from here. Like I said, I don't expect anything at all.

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Major (((hugs))) to you gal, we're in your corner. You bring back my 1 & only d-day, 6 years ago, caught in his truck by his W. Cost both of us our M's, me my job, and what was worse, I thought him & I would end up together, but in trying to save his M he said and did such awful things about me I could not stomach the thought of him.
These days I'm a lot more careful. I get queazy thinking of what you're going thru. We're here for you.
jana
Why in the world would I get a new job? I don't see how "where" I work has anything at all to do with this. MM and I do NOT work together...
DD is 15, it is his stepdaughter. They have an ok/normal father-daughter relationship. But it IS his stepdaughter, so look at where the loyalty is...
Did I leave with dignity? Yes, I suppose I did. He asked her to go to another part of the house while we got dressed. I apologized to him as we were dressing and he stressed to me "this is NOT your fault you have nothinf to be sorry for" and then he apologized.
So far I have heard nothing, so I am taking the "no news is good news" approach. I am sure if he had given me up, W would have called my house already.
uh ... sorry. sounded like you worked together since you said you had to wait until he went back to work. just skip that part.
Mrs.
Oh sorry, no. We talk on IM most of the day while he is at work. We are on opposite shifts and work for different companies. I got confused there for a minute :( lot of that going on the past couple of days.
Wow. I don't even want to imagine what it would be like to be 15 and walk in on something like that!
He's right about one thing, though, this is HIS fault. Maybe next time he won't be so cheap and will get a room.
I'm so sorry for what you are having to go through, but.....I immediately had such different emotions when I read your post.
The daughter....my God....what that must have done to her. And I'm sure that is weighing heavy on your mind. As I read all the responses offering you support....it wasn't until I got down to "Mrssmithandjones" that the poor daughter was mentioned.
Look, WE are adults. WE enter into these situations and your horrible experience just could be a wake up call for some of us, myself TOTALLY included....of the devastation our choices in life could bring upon the innocent ones; the children.
I feel so bad for you and your MM....but the daughter. Dear God.
I hope you can work all this out. I'll probably get slammed for this....but I didn't mean to sound harsh.....I'm just shocked.
You took the words right out of my mouth Emily!
well, yes i thought about the daughter. let's be honest: teenagers don't think adults have sex. my own kids FREAK if there is any insinuation that DH and i had sex or were thinking about having sex. and for them to think about it happening outside the bedroom - ick.
to actually see the act - and with an AP who was brought into your living room -- whoa.
not meant to rub salt in your wound, anonymous. just a mom reaction.
Mrs.
Don't know really what to say about this situation. It's just so...wow...uncomfortable. But one thing comes through loud and clear. It is COMPLETELY inappropriate to meet your AP at their home for ANY reason, let alone to have sex. In several ways. One, obviously, it is so very disrespectful of him to do this. On her couch, in her home. What does this tell you about his character. Really? I mean, cheating isn't so great as it is, but to do it right under your spouse's nose, so to speak, is extremely, I don't know, just disrespectful. Another is that it is incredibly careless. Imagine if it had been the wife that had walked in. You never know what people are capable of when they're confronted with betrayal. Turn on the TV. Watch some of those crime shows. You know, the real ones. There are so many of them where a betrayed wife or husband or significant other finds their loved one with someone else and flips, killing one or both of them. It happens. It's not pretend. I read a true crime book once where a perfectly normal woman found out her husband and been doing it with a woman she knew from their town. I mean, this woman was normal. Lived in an upper middleclass neighborhood, PTA, their kids played together, etc. She went to the woman's house to confront her, the woman told her she was sorry and that she wasn't trying to steal him away, etc., etc., etc. For whatever reason, the wife snapped and ended up killing this woman in her home with an axe. Seriously. These things do happen. Affairs are dangerous enough as it is, but to be so reckless as to meet an AP at their own home and having sex on the couch is just begging for trouble. Not that I don't have empathy for you, Gal. I do. But this was just a trainwreck waiting to happen if you two were behaving in such a careless manner. I really, really hope that you can come out of this without too much fallout. Especially with the daughter, too. I mean, who wants to see their Dad naked period, let alone on top of some woman that isn't her mother. So very ugh.
Gal, I just really hope that you've learned something from this, and that you never, ever, EVER find yourself in a situation like this again. We all make mistakes, so I'm not judging you. I just hope you think a little more with your head next time, ya know? That being said, I hope you're doing better.
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