Roll, I know you want to get away, and you need to, as soon as you can. Your H is a dangerous man and when he realises you really are going, may really get violent. Is there a reason you can't go away for a week and take the kids with you?
You cannot leave them with your H. Under no circumstances. He is unstable. You can't leave them with a half-brother either. If you can't take them with you, then you need to stay just a bit longer although I want you to know you must go IMMEDIATELY WITH THE KIDS - anywhere - a shelter - anywhere at all - if H shows ANY violence towards you or your children.
I agree with the other posters - you have to take care of your precious girls and get them out of harms way.
That said, I don't think that they are as ready as you think they are in terms of moving in with your 5 month AP. They don't love him to death as you may think and when they are in the same home with him, regardless of their feelings towards their father they will feel resentful another man is in their home.
Also, your relationship is relatively new. Even if he has met your children how will he feel becoming a dad of 2 kids instantly?
You need to get out of your situation with your H. Go anywhere but stay where you are. But, I truly believe you need to be on your own with your girls for awhile before incorporating AP full-time for your girls sake.
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Roll, I know you want to get away, and you need to, as soon as you can. Your H is a dangerous man and when he realises you really are going, may really get violent. Is there a reason you can't go away for a week and take the kids with you?
You cannot leave them with your H. Under no circumstances. He is unstable. You can't leave them with a half-brother either. If you can't take them with you, then you need to stay just a bit longer although I want you to know you must go IMMEDIATELY WITH THE KIDS - anywhere - a shelter - anywhere at all - if H shows ANY violence towards you or your children.
Take care
Pisces
I agree with the other posters - you have to take care of your precious girls and get them out of harms way.
That said, I don't think that they are as ready as you think they are in terms of moving in with your 5 month AP. They don't love him to death as you may think and when they are in the same home with him, regardless of their feelings towards their father they will feel resentful another man is in their home.
Also, your relationship is relatively new. Even if he has met your children how will he feel becoming a dad of 2 kids instantly?
You need to get out of your situation with your H. Go anywhere but stay where you are. But, I truly believe you need to be on your own with your girls for awhile before incorporating AP full-time for your girls sake.
roll,
This is a very fluid and frightening time for you, and your mind is racing.
I am so sorry i haven't been able to reply to you all.
This will be one time the bad economy will work in your favor.
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