D-day need help and advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2008
D-day need help and advice
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Fri, 10-02-2009 - 9:20am

I have been posting on the EAS board for the last couple weeks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Fri, 10-02-2009 - 10:20am

Hi Following-


I would say do not pick up that phone! If she calls, so be it. I think your AP needs to handle his own marriage issues and you should not interfere with that. I know it is tempting and you'd like to say your piece, but I would imagine she isn't all that interested in what you have to say at the moment anyway. Is it possible for you to ask your AP to tell her to stop contacting you? I believe this would be the best course of action. If he loves you, as you say, he should be willing and able to step up to the plate in this instance.


Also, if you have an answering machine, I might turn it off temporarily so that AP's W is not able to leave messages for you and your family to be subjected to. You cannot control AP's W's actions, but you can control how you handle them. In this instance it is your responsibility to proctect yourself and your family from any further harm. If you have VM, then I would have that service turned off by the phone company temporarily until the craziness dies down. If someone you know really needs to get in contact with you, I'd imagine they have your cell phone number. Hopefully, your AP should understand this and be supportive.


Just some thoughts....


Happy

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2009
Fri, 10-02-2009 - 10:38am

This is all very typical upon discovery!