I am a SW who was involved with a MM for 3 years. I dated other men pretty much the whole time. I never told AP exactly when I was dating (we just had an understanding that I was free to date) and I didn't tell the eligible men that AP was in the picture. I figured that once I had a serious prospect I would just break up with AP. Sounds like a can't lose situation, right?
You know what ended up happening? I became addicted to MM. I dated some very, very eligible men along the way, and as soon as I had to make a decision on taking things further with SM I would turn around, dump the SM and run back to MM. This developed into an unhealthy pattern for the whole 3 years - yeah, he did 'f*k my life up'... and now I am trying to put it back together; I cut off all contact with xMM 2 months ago. In a few months I will be ready to date again :-)
I was the MW who had an A with a single Man. The A lasted 5-years. We broke each others heart when we I called it quits, but I wasn't ready to get a D then and he was pressuring me. To this day he still claims I used him and "F-up" his life and he can never get back the 5 years he's lost while he was in an A with me. Funny thing is, he's still waiting and hoping that we would end up together someday. How sad is that?
Don't be the one waiting around for a married person. Most likely you'll end up like my exAP who wasted years for nothing.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
Thanks for the welcome. Just a bit of an update. Posted a profile on some online sites and got a big response. Have a couple of potential dates this week
Hi cherry,
I am a SW who was involved with a MM for 3 years. I dated other men pretty much the whole time. I never told AP exactly when I was dating (we just had an understanding that I was free to date) and I didn't tell the eligible men that AP was in the picture. I figured that once I had a serious prospect I would just break up with AP. Sounds like a can't lose situation, right?
You know what ended up happening? I became addicted to MM. I dated some very, very eligible men along the way, and as soon as I had to make a decision on taking things further with SM I would turn around, dump the SM and run back to MM. This developed into an unhealthy pattern for the whole 3 years - yeah, he did 'f*k my life up'... and now I am trying to put it back together; I cut off all contact with xMM 2 months ago. In a few months I will be ready to date again :-)
hugs,
trixie
I was the MW who had an A with a single Man. The A lasted 5-years. We broke each others heart when we I called it quits, but I wasn't ready to get a D then and he was pressuring me. To this day he still claims I used him and "F-up" his life and he can never get back the 5 years he's lost while he was in an A with me. Funny thing is, he's still waiting and hoping that we would end up together someday. How sad is that?
Don't be the one waiting around for a married person. Most likely you'll end up like my exAP who wasted years for nothing.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Hi Cherry,
And welcome to the board!
A little background, I am a SW dating a MM.
Hi,
Thanks for the welcome. Just a bit of an update. Posted a profile on some online sites and got a big response. Have a couple of potential dates this week
Hi cherrybliss :)
I typed out my response but it did not post....said "no text" and went I went 'back' it was gone...grrrr.