DAY 15

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
DAY 15
3
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 5:48pm
Day 15 and I can hardly stand it anymore. No one has seen MM . I don't understand all this! He was so happy when he left here 15 days ago. He said he would be back to take me mushroom hunting and to cut up some wood for me that blew down in a storm. He never ever gave me a clue that he was going to desert me! We talked about how he needed to get finances around and if they were going to file for divorce or legal separation. I just do not understand. He was going to call and talk to his father that lives in florida . I know he doesn't want to hurt me because he told me that alot of times. When we went outside when he was leaving , he said " this is where we could get into trouble." I said oh yeah , like somneone is out here with a camera taking pictures! But he was serious. He is so afraid that she is trying to get anything on him to use against him in the divorce. I really think that is why he has been staying right at home and staying away from me. He told me she just had caller Id put on the cell phone. He is petrified of her being able to keep his girls away from him. I feel for him, but I am scared that he has let to much fear of her threats take over his own rational thinking. I have got to find away to get to talk to him. I have too!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2003
In reply to: xxx_trouble
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 6:03pm
I just wanted to send a hug your way. I am sorry for what you are going though right now, I can't even imagine how crazy I would go if I were in your position. In one respect I want to tell you to sit tight, he may truly be in a tough spot right now, especially with children involved. On the other hand, I want to tell you not to wait by the phone. I've found that is the most painful and lonely time for me -- When I want MM to call or expect him to and I don't hear anything.

I'll be thinking of you.

(((((trouble)))))

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
In reply to: xxx_trouble
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 6:12pm
thanks for understanding that what I am going through is extremely tough! I would not wish for anyone to have to go this. I keep running everything over in my head. trying to find something negative that would give me a clue to him maybe leaving me for good! I just can't think of anything that would suggest that! Something big is going down! That's all I got to say!
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Registered: 02-16-2004
In reply to: xxx_trouble
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:44am
Here is another hug your way! ((((HUGS))))

What is it with some of our men? Why can't they just shoot out an email to let us know they aren't trapped under a rock or something? My MM told be in the beginning that he would never just "disappear" on me. It wasn't in him. So, when we have NC, I tend to over-think things, but in my heart know things in his life are busy or that he's out of town. He (I truly do believe) is the kind of man who would at least talk to me before ending our R. It would eat me up to go 15 days with NC and at least not know where he was. I couldn't take it.